This post is For Women Only.
Just like the book titled, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. (I’m giving it away, today!)
I read this book the week after Thanksgiving in November of 2005.
I remember the date exactly because it was the week my marriage fell apart.
Yeah. It surprised me too.
There had been a crack in the wall of my marriage. I didn’t see it or want to see it and then one day, after 11 years, the whole thing crumbled.
It was horrible. It was the first time that love didn’t seem to be enough.
We had issues and problems and pain. There were tears and fights and disappointments.
(Because Google is forever, I won’t go into details, but just for the record, this was very serious, but did not involve a third party).
Our marriage hung precariously over the edge of a cliff and we had one choice to make: Give it a nudge or hang on for dear life.
But we dug in our heels, went to counseling for months and decided to rebuild the walls of our marriage. One stone at a time.
During those months, I lost weight and my appetite. I mourned the loss of something I never had: the perfect marriage.
We talked, cried, prayed. And we forgave.
We also read. A lot. One of the most helpful books for me was For Women Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men.
I entered my marriage as a naive young girl. And I didn’t know very much about men. I think this book impacted me so much because it explained how men think. Even after more than a decade married to a good man, I didn’t truly understand the way God had created him.
The book is filled with facts, statistics, national surveys, and interviews with men. The entire thing was an eye-opening revelation for me.
I don’t usually endorse books, but this one is amazing for women (and not just naive ones with endangered marriages) I would recommend every woman read it!
But the most important part of our rebuilding, was prayer and divine help from God. He walked with us through the valleys.
But we had to invite Him.
I know that you may have ascertained an opinion of my marriage before reading this post. And I don’t blame you. Some readers have even commented about our ‘perfect marriage’ or ‘how much we love each other.’ And while it’s not perfect or even close, it is good.
But, mainly because for awhile, it was very bad.
And I love him more deeply and we share more intimacy because of the bad.
So if today finds you in a crumbling marriage, please be encouraged. It can be rebuilt, even if your surrounded by broken dreams.
If your marriage is strong and secure, be thankful and remember to seal the cracks as they occur.
Many people don’t know that we nearly lost it all. My hubby and I feel challenged to share our testimony as opportunities are presented. It helps fortify the walls, ya know?
As you might imagine, just typing this post has made me feel vulnerable. So, virtual ((hugs)) are accepted and appreciated.
And give your marriage a big boost by buying your hubby, For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Lives of Woman.
He may be surprised to learn more about you.
Leave a comment by 10 pm (CST) tonight and you’ll be entered to win a free copy of For Women Only!
Food for the Soul:
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”