I have been blessed with three children.
Girl, boy, girl.
In a crowd, you would know they belong together because they look alike. It’s the nose, I think. Or maybe the big eyes, or maybe it’s the matching dirt under their nails.
But they are as unique as snowflakes.
God has stamped each of my kids differently. I think it’s called individuality.
I love doing girl stuff with my daughters! I remember being so thrilled that I was having another girl because they would each have a sister.
My son is my middle, peace-loving child. He’s a buffer and has me wound pretty tightly. He loves to hang out with his Dad and fish. And he’s very easy-going.
I have the best of both worlds. But is one gender harder to raise than another?
Two dear friends and I, met weekly during the school year to pray for our children. One has two boys and the other, four children, all boys.
One day, they were comparing boy stories. They were talking about the noises, the competitions, the smells. And the rough-housing.
I sat back and listened. I kept thinking about my son, dressed in princess clothes and asking for a pink Singer sewing machine for Christmas.
Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s plenty of finger-pulling and belching in THAT family. We just don’t have tournaments.
But it dawned on me that the dynamic in my home with two girls and a boy was different than theirs. It wasn’t a great epiphany, but it did strike a chord in me.
Later that day, I even encouraged my hubby to go ‘toot and burp’ with his son. And maybe wrestle.
Yeah, he looked at me the same way.
For the longest time, I blamed birth order and gender on my first born’s strong nature and my middle child’s laid back spirit.
I know raising all girls must have it’s own dynamic too.
CNN featured a parenting article that made these points:
- Boys may not listen as well as girls because their hearing isn’t as good from birth
- Girls are rigged to be people-oriented, while boys are more action-oriented
- Girls tend to grow up less confident and more insecure than boys
- Boys are harder to raise early on, but girls become more difficult as preteens
So, talk to me. What’s the dynamic in your home? Who’s harder to raise?
What plays the biggest role? Gender, birth order or personality?