“KIMMEL, TAKE OFF YOUR SHOES, leave on your socks, climb up on the trampoline, and follow my instructions,” the coach instructed the 9th grade boy.
He quickly untied his shoes and climbed onto the trampoline for the demonstration. As he did, he noticed holes in both of his socks. It wasn’t a big deal until a classmate yelled, “Check out the holes in Kimmel’s socks! Hey, you want to borrow a pair of mine? I’ve got plenty. Or maybe we should take up a collection after class!”
“Knock it off!” the coach commanded, but the damage had already been done. The guys had a good laugh, and they continued to have a good laugh even after the coach told them to be quiet.
Tim Kimmel couldn’t concentrate the rest of the class. All he could think about was mending every sock he had as soon as he got home. The teasing had drawn attention to his family’s economic status. ”We were a family on the lowest rung of the middle class…”
When class was over, the PE teacher dismissed the kids and Tim put his shoes back on. On his way out, the PE teacher called his name. ”Tim, I wanted to tell you why I called on you to do that demonstration in class today. It’s because I think you’re the most agile student in my class.” Then he untied one of his shoes and pulled it off, to reveal two of his toes poking thru a large hole. ”Us agile guys are tough on socks!”
As Tim walked away, he found a dictionary and looked up the word agile: ”moves with speed, ease, elegance and liveliness; mentally alert and quick-witted.”
This changed his life. (He wondered if the coach had acutally cut those holes in his socks to show him it was okay to be vulnerable).
Grace-Based parenting says we need to give our children the freedom to be different. They need the freedom to be vulnerable and we need to extend grace to them when they are vulnerable. Our children need the freedom to be candid and the liberty to make mistakes.
I love this quote from the book:
his is much harder for me then for them).