Yesterday I mentioned we were making some changes in our home. (Thank you for your encouraging comments!)
Now, before you get the impression that our lives are a Disney Movie, in which I’ve reprised the role of Mary Poppins and my delightful children are Pollyanna, you must know that change is never easy.
On hearing that our TV was being turned off more than on, my six year old son, wept.
And my oldest child kept asking for the date and time of the turnoff, so she could get in as much cable TV as possible.
Oh, yes, you could say we are human.
For months now, I’ve been feeling stressed about our schedule and the demands on our time. I usually spend hours every week dropping my kids off at various extra curricular activities after school. We eat a rushed dinner and hurry off to bath and bed.
Now, I know the car shuffling is a normal mom activity, but seriously, my kids are 8, 6, and 1. Do they need to master every sport, right now? Won’t there be plenty of time for those things when they are in junior high and high school? I’ve heard in our town, just to make a team sport in public school, you have to be an expert by the time you’re seven.
Maybe it’s time to move.
The plethora of activities offered on a sliver platter to my kids boggles my mind. Am I a bad mom because I don’t have my daughter in tumbling lessons so she’ll have a shot at being a high school cheerleader or because I don’t have my 21 month old daughter in Spanish class?
I mean, sure, we’d love for our six year old son to receive his Black Belt in TaeKwon Do, but he’s on pace to do that when he’s 8. Why the rush?
And so, we decided to put everything on hold, except for monthly Boy Scout and Girl Scout meetings, where we participate with our kids.
Do you know how my kids reacted?
[Please note that this was a personal, family decision and I know it's not for everyone. We'll still do summer YMCA sports and we aren't being fanatical, just deliberate during this season.] I know my kid’s will develop individual passions, but it’s hard to hone in on that when there’s so much noise.
We’ve decided to be intentional with our new found time. My kids have been so excited about our One Day to Give plan, that they jumped at the chance to plan monthly giving projects. We’ve freed up money normally used on activities to fund our One Day to Give ideas.
Our calendar is sprinkled with family craft nights, we made this at our last one.
On weekly Family Nights, we watch old home movies or play games. We’ve also planned date nights for me and THAT man of mine. They are a high priority. Date nights with our kids is a new addition to the calendar.
And I’ll be sharing about What’s Your Beef Night tomorrow; it’s a new hit in our home.
So, I know there’s a lot of differing opinions on the over-scheduling of kids. What’s yours?
I feel like I’ve been in a fog and indecisive in the past regarding the busyness of our lives. But for the first time in a long while, I’m actually thinking clearly.