
I found some crystal hanging things (I think they were ornaments) to hang on the bottom of the candle holder.
Turned out pretty cute:
... you know the ones.

I found some crystal hanging things (I think they were ornaments) to hang on the bottom of the candle holder.
Turned out pretty cute:


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I knew this unplanned picture of my kids next to my parent’s pool was something special. But it’s been sitting in my digital photo album since the end of summer.

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This is a beautiful love story.
I painted the little table red, added a leopard print design and new leopard knobs (from Ebay)
It cost less than $20 and I adore this little table and get compliments on it all the time!
Here’s how I did the leopard painting:
1. Tape off the area you want to paint
I love Texas.
But not because everything is bigger here. (And if you could see our mosquitoes, fire ant hills or plastic surgery results you’d never doubt that fact).
I love Texas because I can say y’all, find an abundance of sweet tea and have a heat stroke in May.
But I’m a Texan for one reason: my family.
I don’t talk about my parents often because I value their privacy.
I have to avoid mentioning them in the majority of my posts because they are such an integral part of my life. It is fuller because of them. My days are richer with my children growing up with their grandparents.
I spent the first 10 of my 14 married years living thousands of miles from them. Several years ago when we decided to leave full time ministry, we came home to Texas. We re-entered their lives, broken people. Our dreams were cloudy, our pockets were empty. Our hope, gone.
And it’s the best decision we’ve ever made.
Nothing makes my heart smile more than seeing my toddler run into their arms, squealing their names. Nothing makes me laugh harder than watching my Dad wrestle and tease my son. Nothing makes a lump form in my throat quicker than watching my mom play dolls with my daughter.
I don’t know if we will always live near them, but today, it is one of my greatest treasures.
I’m a Texan for one reason: family.
It’s also the reason I might move to North Dakota.
(Just keepin’ it real).
Mom and Dad, thank you for enriching my life, for loving me, for creating a beautiful inheritance of faith and for letting my son beat you at Clue.
The most delicious Etsy store giveaway is happening.
Today.
On my blog.
I’m sure many of you have heard of the darling Vintage Pearl. Her hand-stamped sentiments are very popular and simply lovely.

I love wearing their names around my neck!
Unless I’m mad at them.
Kidding.
Sort of.

Go visit her beautiful store and come back here and leave a comment on what you’d choose if Mr. Random chose you.
Try a Valentine’s Bottle Cap Necklace. I tell you how over at Blissfullly Domestic.
And now for another super easy idea!
If you haven’t had a chance to visit the S.W.A.K. carnival, go now and read more than 150 inspiring love stories!
SWAK Valentine’s Carnival Door Prize Winners:
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Winner: Extreme HousewifeingRing Lipstick by Jenni (Value $22)
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The Love Dare” book (Value $15) Winner: Books N Boys{Please leave a comment to be entered for one of these fabulous door prizes. All winners will be announced on the Valentine’s Day DIYP post on Saturday! Comments will close at 10 pm CST Friday night.}

Welcome to the last day of the S.W.A.K. Carnival! It’s been so inspiring reading your love stories. Please continue to read the posts, it’s worth the time! I enjoyed your comments so much on the Marriage Killers post yesterday and found some valuable marriage advice!
I’ve only been married once, to one man.
And although we’re creeping up on fifteen years, my experience is limited to my current (and only planned) marriage. I know not all men are the same and they all love differently. But I think God designed men from the same overall blueprint.
I think universally there are some things we can do to bring a thrill to our marriage.
You know, besides walking around naked all day.
Take Care of Yourself
One of the best things we can do for our marriage is taking care of ourselves. I think diet and exercise are important for our own health, but I’m talking about more than that. I think it’s vital that we feel good about ourselves. I think it offers our marriage a huge boost when we like who we are: physically, mentally, spiritually and even professionally. I think getting dressed everyday, showering, and feeling good about ourselves is important in our marriages. I want to look good for my hubby. I’m not saying I don’t have pajama days every once in a while, but I find it’s a lot harder to stay depr
essed when I take care of myself.
Have Fun Together
I love laughing with my hubby. Some of the best moments are the unplanned ones where we are carefree and silly. I think we need to remember to have fun! Nothing thrills my hubby more than when I give way to a schedule and get playful. Have fun together!! Hold hands, tickle each other, take bubble baths, kiss, laugh, go on walks! Let him paint your nails. Try his favorite hobby. Remember. Recapture. Refocus. Make memories. Sometimes the best thrill is to put aside our heavy responsibilities and troubles and rejoice together.
Time Away Together
I think this is a given marriage thriller! I love sneaking away with my man. Nothing recharges our marriage like the quiet and serenity of the two of us together. But if you’re like me, babysitters are costly, dates are infrequent and vacationing alone is rare. Plan it. Budget it. If you don’t, it won’t happen. My hubby and I attended this marriage conference last weekend. It was only three hours and $30 (which fit into our budget and schedule). It was just what we needed. And if it comes down to it and you just cannot ‘get away’, try Date Night in a Minivan!
Time Away Alone
Time together is vital, but so is time alone. I think too much time alone can yield itself to a marriage killer, but we all need to develop self-interest. My marriage has changed just in the last year because I’ve changed. This blog is a part of that transformation. Finding my voice and pursuing what I love (writing), has completed me. My hubby has supported me, encouraged me and challenged me to discover this part of me. It has enhanced our marriage because it has enhanced me. Find something for yourself outside of being a mom and wife. Do it for you! And allow your husband the same freedom.
Just Do It
Now you know I can’t talk about marriage thrillers without going here. Sex and intimacy are crucial for a healthy marriage. They just are. I know for some wives, sex is a chore. If you struggle in this area, invest in some good books, talk to your doctor, work on it. Do it for your marriage, for yourself. When this area of life is healthy, it’s easier to handle life’s up and downs together. When this area is suffering, it only heightens life’s hardships. God gave sex to a marriage to be the icing on the cake. And when it comes to cake, who doesn’t like the icing?
Kindness and Respect
I think this is a given and then I hear the way some women talk to and about their mates or I read blogs that dish out dishonor. We all have times in our marriage when it gets hard. It’s one of the aspects of a good marriage-one that’s worked through the difficult times. Putting your spouse’s needs before your own is a sign of generosity. It is a tender reminder of respect and kindness. And it’s in the little things we do: like greeting our spouse at the front door and bringing them their favorite snack…just because. It’s also in the way we respond to each other and how well we listen. Sometimes this common courtesy is missing and it leaves an ugly hole in our homes.
Inviting God into Your Marriage
This is the greatest act of intimacy. God created marriage and He created wife and husband for each other. He belongs in our marriage. We’ve all heard that one out two marriages end in divorce. These statistics are reduced to .5% of marriages that pray together. There’s something holy and beautiful about praying with your mate. It is a strengthening bond in a marriage. And it is thrilling to reach this level of intimacy. The day my marriage nearly ended was very painful. I truly believe God saved it because we turned to Him. He showed us how to love one another.
What are some other things we can do to add strength and health to our marriage? I can’t wait to hear from you!
{Please leave a comment on today’s post for your entry for one of these fabulous door prizes. All winners will be announced on Valentine’s Day}
4 Reluctant Entertainers is donating a copy of the book she co-auth
ored “Married, but Not Engaged”. You can read more here.
Decor To Adore- a beautiful Vintage Valentine Corsage from this sweet Etsy store (Value $14)
Here are a few more door prizes that were donated locally (so there isn’t a link):
Using the words always and never
Keeping Score
Putting your children first
I love my children. They are my heart. But they are needy little people and they are not afraid to voice their demands (or commands). It is easy to put kids first because the squeaky wheel, well, you know. And as a mother, it is natural to meet our children’s needs. I think moms must be very careful because seeds of resentment and jealousy can grow during these hectic years when we feel pulled in every direction. In those moments, I have to remind myself that I am a wife. And if my marriage is suffering due to lack of attention, so will my motherhood.
Lust and pornography
Money
Early in my marriage, 95% of our disagreements centered around money (which is funny considering we didn’t have any). This battle was frustrating and exhausting. We worked through numerous issues, got on a budget (which I recommend) and we made the decision to share our money and have nearly equal input. (I defer to my hubby because he’s more knowledgeable in this area). We also agreed not to spend a certain amount without telling one another. If this is an area you struggle in with your mate, I highly recommend Dave Ramsey’s program.
Withholding sex
Wives: Please read For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men. I think it is an essential book for every woman and I think it is a MUST READ for every woman. Check it out from the library, borrow it, buy it for $10. It completely changed the way I understand men, specifically my hubby. I learned how men think, what they retain, what they need, why they need it….and this information is based on hundreds of men, like our husbands. So, if you use sex in any other way in your marriage then the way God created it, it’s wrong and utterly damaging. Or if you don’t make yourself available to your husbands, you are making his life very challenging and you may even weaken his resolve for purity. And of course, your hubby needs to read this version For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
.
What have I left out? What do we need to watch out for that is destructive to a healthy marriage? Talk to me. (Friday we’ll be talking about Marriage Thriller!)
Thank you for joining me today for the S.W.A.K. Valentine’s Carnival. I can’t wait to read your posts! (If you need info about the carnival, please click on the button).
It’s also the day for some fabulous door prizes! Please visit the following links and bookmark the sites. {Some of the door prizes will be given away today to people who link up a post, the others will be given away on Thursday and Friday, where you can enter by leaving a comment. ALL DOOR PRIZE WINNERS WILL BE ANNOUNCED ON VALENTINE’S DAY).
Decor To Adore- a beautiful Vintage Valentine Corsage from this sweet Etsy store (Value $14)
I’m about halfway thru the Kiss Challenge. (This is a personal challenge I issued for the month of February to passionately kiss my hubby once a day).
It’s been fun.
My hubby has enjoyed it and he certainly hasn’t given me any lip.
If he had, I would have smacked him.
It’s also been challenging. Besides being out of town a few days, there have been a few times when I had to make myself kiss my hubby.
Shocking. I know. Especially since he’s so sexy.
Normally, if I was having a bad day and that last thing I wanted was a physical lip-lock session, I went with that thought.
But since I’ve committed to this challenge, on those yucky days, I pushed past those feelings and decided to be selfless. I was amazed at how quickly I relaxed, stopped thinking about my day and enjoyed it.
I am married to a good man.
He is my best friend. He is my favorite person in the world.
I love living my life with him. He knows me better than I know myself.
I pray my children share their lives with the soul mate God created for them.
Finding him is the greatest discovery of my life. Keeping him is the reward.
But. It is not easy.
After being married nearly fifteen years, I’m happy to say we’ve conquered some pretty heavy challenges. We’ve weathered some significant storms and are stronger because of them.
But taking the time to kiss, to hold hands, to engage every day is important. Crucial, even.
I have 15 more days of kissing.
No, that’s not right.
I have a lifetime.
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Dine In: Add recipes and put together the perfect menu
See a Movie: Get movie listings, local show times and buy tickets
See a Show: Find concerts and events in your area
Buy a Gift: Special occasion? Surprise your date with a present.
Other Activities: Take a walk on the beach or go to a museum, quickly add any idea to the date planner.
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It’s coming this week! Get your posts ready to link and come back tomorrow for the details on the door prizes!
I’ll admit that immediately after I walked into the conference, I turned around and dashed back to my room where I gave myself an excellent pep talk.
It was very humbling when other bloggers sought me out and said they wanted to meet me because they saw me as their mentor.
Plus, I only peed my pants once.

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