How to Handle Little People: A Non Tutorial (This is me and maybe, that’s why I cried when I read it)

The Unofficial Events at Blissdom (are you going? let me know in the comments!)
Free Rice-a fun trivia game-every answer you get right, puts free rice in a bowl for Haitians (this is free and fun!)
It was Like Coming Home- a brilliant (and hilarious) hair care post by the one and only, BooMama.

http://wearethatfamily.com/2010/01/how-to-handle-little-people-non/

And Now, I’d Like You to Meet: My New Home Office

Our house is definitely not big, but it’s right for us. We use every spare inch of it, except for one room: our formal dining room. We just aren’t formal kind of people, but even rarely used, it holds an old table and thrift store chairs. And dust.
I’ve been itching for a home office for months. We can’t justify moving and I simply don’t want the expense or headache of one.
[I couldn't find a lot of inspiration for such a transformation. I googled and asked friend's opinions, I made my hubby move furniture in and out and was actually unsure of this idea.]
But I finally got up the courage! So. I talked my hubby into letting me change our formal dining room into a home office. (He was very agreeable, he just didn’t think it would look that great).
Before:

(Yes, that’s the table that got hung in the doorway at midnight. It was hilarious, but only to me. My hubby did not laugh one bit).
After:

This is now the busiest room in the house! My hubby included (yes, he loves it!)
What I did:
I kept the paint, curtains, rug the same and two of my dining room chairs. I just didn’t want to spend more money than needed. I also kept my dining room hutch.
Nearly everything else came from Ikea! You can really stretch a dollar in that store. We bought the gorgeous chair, shelves, desk (which is really a $69 dining room table!), and storage boxes. I got the desk lamp and skirt around the desk (which is actually one curtain panel I cut and velcro’d) at Target.
This room inspires me.
Who knows, I might even write a book in it!

He Said/She Said (3): Confessions

Thank you so much for the love and support you offered on last week’s post to my husband and I. Your reception of our hard-to-tell-story was beautiful. Sometimes doing the right thing is hard, but you helped us handle it with grace.
Please understand, this is our story and we aren’t making assumptions about your marriage or your spouse or proclaiming that every marriage has or will face something like this. We are simply telling it to help others. Maybe even you.
She Said:
I will never forget the night my husband confessed his sin to me. We were on our way home from Disney World of all places. We had just spent a magical week on our first real vacation after nearly 11 years of marriage. I was still on a Disney high as we drove our van deep into the night, our two children asleep in the back.
Up until this point in our lives, we’d had a really great marriage. We’d been out of full time ministry for two years and were finally getting back on our feet. For the first time, we had a 401k, we owned a nice home (the one we still live in) and my husband had a promising new sales career. Everything seemed perfect.
So, in the dark, as my hubby and I talked, our conversation began to take an uncomfortable turn. And then he just said it: “I have a sin problem. I’m addicted to lust and pornography.”
My world stopped. I knew from that moment, I would never be the same again.
I’m not going to candy-coat this: I freaked out.
I was so disturbed and disgusted that while we sped down the freeway, I climbed into the backseat to separate myself from him for awhile. I wept, held onto my babies and wondered if this is what if felt like for your marriage to breakup.
I asked a lot of questions. I hated all the answers. I couldn’t understand, couldn’t wrap my head around this different person, my mind screamed. “Who are you?” This was before counseling, before I gobbled up every book I could find on the subject. This is the night I lost some of my innocence.
But even on this first night, as I cried bitter tears, I couldn’t stop loving this broken man. My broken, hurting man. I didn’t understand this new ugly place. I didn’t know how we were going to make it, but I knew that I wanted to help him find freedom.
(And he found freedom like he’s never tasted, and we both found intimacy on a level we didn’t know existed….)
Next week, we will talk about some warning signs and then practical tools that would help fight this battle.
But before that, I just wanted to share some reassurances that helped me during this time (from For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn)
Reassurance #1: His temptation is often not primarily sexual (physical, yes, but not always sexual).
Reassurance #2: Every man is different (some can experience an involuntary sexual image and dismiss it without being tempted, while another can see the same image and struggle deeply).
Reassurance #3: It’s not because of you (this was the main point hammered over and over to me by the counselor…”your hubby had this problem before he even met you.”
Reassurance #4: This doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you (it was hard for me to understand how he could love me and still struggle with lusting after others…but this was a struggle with sin and even though it affected our relationship, these were separate in his heart).

He Said:


WFMW: My Only Beauty Tip


Please mark your calendars for the March 3 & 10 temporary move of WFMW. While I’m in Kenya with the Compassion Bloggers, Shannon of Rocks in My Dryer will be welcoming you all back to her place as she hosts WFMW for two weeks! There will NOT be a special theme for March 3, link any tip you’d like!


I’m not an authority on beauty or fashion. I shop at Target for both.
(I still use Covergirl makeup and Seabreeze cleanser) See? I told you.
But I did recently discover something that has taken my 25 minute morning routine down to 19 1/2 minutes.
I used to blow dry my naturally wavy hair dry and then hot iron the soup out of it. I knew all that heat wasn’t great for my hair, but I was trying to achieve a certain look.
The gal who cuts my hair, styled it the other day and didn’t use the hot iron. Instead, she used one of these:
It probably has a name, but I like to call it THE FATTEST, ROUNDEST HAIR BRUSH KNOWN TO MANKIND.
Now, I blow dry with this big daddy (use brush to roll hair out straight while drying) and skip the hot iron step entirely!

My hair is a bit puffier than it used to be. But y’all: I’m saving 6 minutes and my hair follicles!
Don’t forget, the THEMED Works for Me Wednesday planned for next week, Feb. 3: share a blogging tip! (this is a suggestion, you’re always free to link up any tips)
Thank you for joining me for WFMW! {You can read the guidelines here.}

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  3. LifeasMOM – freezer alarm will save your bacon
  4. Nikki (Happy Lunchtimes)
  5. Raising Olives – Keeping Kids rooms tidy
  6. HoosierHomemade{ Healthy Breakfast}
  7. A Greener Kitchen and SAVE $$
  8. Phoebe @ Getting Freedom (Boredom Busters)
  9. Heavenly Homemakers (Reading with the kids!)
  10. Kirsty@Momedy : How to be great
  11. Smockity Frocks – Laptop Case DIY
  12. Hannah @ Mulberry Spot (ordering seeds)
  13. Kristi_runwatch (labeling sippy cups)

  14. Marsha@Taste & See (seed starters)
  15. Laura @ Frugal Follies (Selling Books Online)
  16. How To Be A Balanced Mother (Kat)
  17. Barb @ The Forever Neighbor (homeschool room)
  18. This Side of Eternity (FREE Home Management Helps)
  19. Kids making BRKFST (Amy @ MomsToolbox)
  20. Lynns Kit Adv (easy choc pie)
  21. Life At The Circus (Preparing for Stomach Bug)
  22. The Happy Housewife – Birthday Box
  23. Raising Arrows {Morning Sickness & My To – Do List}
  24. Frugal Girls! {$ave BIG on Laundry with this tip!}
  25. Amys Finer Things (cooking dried beans)
  26. Erin @ Closing Time (kids activity)
  27. Kayren {binding homeschool books}
  28. Amanda @TrentTribe (Lil girls Dish Towel Dress)
  29. ElizabethG (Saving Water)
  30. The Diaper Diaries (getting your newborn to sleep)
  31. Another cooking for 2 tip – wannabe baker blog
  32. Moms In Need of Mercy (Excel @ Home Management)
  33. Julie From Inmates (sticker maker)
  34. Jo@Mylestones (build snow tunnels)
  35. Whats Cooking (Immersion Blender)
  36. live once juicy (cultivating skills)
  37. Jeni @ Peace & Carrots (Quick Chocolate Fix!)
  38. Getting Caught Up on Email 4 the Easily Distracted
  39. Kat @ New England Saving : Sew Reusable Snack Bags!
  40. HS Classroom (Teaching Music in Homeschool)
  41. So Wonderful So Marvelous – SPAGHETTI SQUASH!
  42. Gift box home decor @ Keeping It Simple
  43. Clips bracelets and headbands
  44. Tales of a Horvath Housewife (canned fruit)
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  46. Gretchen@Second Blooming : The Cleaning Plan
  47. Crazy Adventures in Parenting (Baby Helps Too)
  48. mombrud (Chez Bruderer)
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  51. Christine (How to cut your online time in half)
  52. Sandra @ A Lot of Savings (Decadent Coffee @ Home)
  53. Organize & Decorate Everything (draft stopper)
  54. LESLIE (my favorite parenting book!)
  55. so much shouting / laughter : homemade chicken stock
  56. My Kitchen Staples – How I Keep My Family Healthy
  57. Avivah @ Oceans of Joy (vitamin C for healing)
  58. Organize your kitchen leftovers
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  62. Jami@An Oregon Cottage (using real foods in recipe)
  63. Kitchen Stewardship (OAMC no packaged foods!)
  64. theNanaBlogs (Ten Things Nanas Blog About)
  65. Kingdom First Mom – FREE Anti – virus Protection
  66. Our Nifty Notebook (Paint Dabbers)
  67. Keep drawers from falling out@Fearfully&Wonderfu; ll
  68. Treasia@Stepp Into My World / Stain Your Fireplace
  69. Make Your Own Hand Lettered Sign @Twice Remembered
  70. Getting out of a Funk@Fearfully&WonderfullyMade;
  71. The MAMA BIRD (How to get FREE BRAND NEW BOOKS!)
  72. Adventure Mom Janna – How Can I Protect My Child?
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  74. Newlyweds (Hissy Fits)
  75. Best place online to buy books – new and used
  76. Crunchy Greenery (remember your grocery bags)
  77. Aint She Crazy – Getting the Kids to Sit Quietly
  78. Grocery Shopping Tips
  79. Finesse Your Nest – Easy DIY Wall Decor
  80. Melissa – Military Family (homeschool bookshelf)
  81. Odd Mom (Picking Your Fish)
  82. Alison @ Hospitality Haven – iChat & Skype
  83. Gorgeous Cherry Blossom Garlands from Tablecloths
  84. Alea@Premeditate dLeftovers (DebbieMeyer Green Bags)
  85. Sweetest Stenciled Dresser @ IconInspired
  86. Earnest Parenting : Peach Pie Filling
  87. MomsFrugal (easy veggie dip kiddies love)
  88. too blessed 2 stress – craft solutions
  89. Gracious Homestead – Homemade Taco Seasoning
  90. The “Se7en +1″ Brilliant Bag Bonanza …
  91. Handy Dandy Little Gadget at This is My Life
  92. Little Lizard King – Boutique Burp Cloths DIY
  93. Monica@DailyDwel ling (mexican chicken)
  94. Maris Little Corner (online banking)
  95. Tara @ Feels Like Home (hiding the toys)
  96. Our monthly Meal Plan {Stephanie Lynn}
  97. Tracey @ Girls to Grow (Child Sleep Issues)
  98. From The Trenches Of Motherhood – Tea Towel Rescue
  99. TeriLynne @ PleasingtoYou {kids bday gifts – easy!}
  100. A Busy Mom of Two (eating regular food on a diet)
  101. Steph @ My Country Haven (Stain Treatment)
  102. Fairion – Best Travel Toy
  103. Julie Bagamary (Handmade Valentines)
  104. et="_blank"> Organizing Receipts
  105. Chrissy @ Traveling Light {Workouts}
  106. Gretchen @ EOL – Menu Planning Part II
  107. TidyMom {Chocolate Valentine Cookies}
  108. Adding morning workouts @ Diapers & Hair Dye
  109. Homemade Laundry Soap {Jolanthe}
  110. Trash to Treasure for Home Decor
  111. Kathleen (How to get in trouble with the TSA)
  112. Moneywise Moms (Keeping Receipts)
  113. The Meanest Momma (Grandmas Autumn Soup)
  114. Liz – 1 step easy curls!
  115. Brotherly Love through Bribery
  116. Toddlers Toy From Recyclables
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  118. Learning the Frugal Life~Using the Sun for Heat
  119. Kristen (chocolate cheerios GIVEAWAY)
  120. Cupcake Mommie (Washing Dishes)
  121. Martianne (literal work – jobs for moms)
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  124. How to take the skin off your chicken!
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  126. Such The Spot (lunch wrap recipe)
  127. KLee – organizing the sewing corner
  128. pennypinchinmomm a (master grocery lists)
  129. Alicia – cleaning out the spice cabinet
  130. Sandra – cleaning out the freezer
  131. Jenny @ The Zepf Life (Sewing Machine)
  132. Kristi – Being intentional in 2010!
  133. Erin (Just Ask)
  134. Graham Crakas – Quick Kitchen Makeover
  135. Thrift Shoppin for Vintage Books
  136. Alan @ makeadiff21 (Kitchen Love)
  137. Jessica @ Reflections (Free Music Movies & TV)
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  139. The Gaines Gang {Get Your SHINE On!}
  140. Melissa @ Frugal Creativity (Password Organizer)
  141. Katie @ Clean and Classic (Pants on the Ground!)
  142. Simplified Home School Record Keeping
  143. Childrens toothbrush hanger
  144. Mama Birds Potty Training
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  2. THE COTTAGE HOME : Easiest Ribbon Organization EVER
  3. Songberries / Perfect Rice
  4. Adorkable : : : Sleep Socks
  5. 30 Family Dinner Questions @HowDoesShe
  6. TexasBangerters – Water bottles that dont Sweat!
  7. Bread : The staff of Life
  8. THE COTTAGE HOME : Mason Jar Craft Storage TUTORIAL
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  10. PapuaGirl – How to host a murder mystery dinner
  11. Homemade Baby Wipes (Catherine B)
  12. Tuning Out (Unintended Housewife)
  13. Alison @ Under / Oak tree (mini veggie trays)
  14. Green Baby Green Mama (10 ways make clothes last)
  15. DIY Kitchen Make – Over
  16. Family stamping food (Old Enough for CHORES?)
  17. Elena@MyDomestic Church – The FIRM ult. compendium
  18. Noisy Toys (DailyLackey)
  19. Buffie @ Never Quite Perfect (Vitamin Alarm)
  20. Redemption Unlimited (Shoes Off at the Door)
  21. Duklings at Camian Academy (Specific To Do Lists)
  22. Desk of a Princess (Cheap & Easy Throw Pillows)
  23. Tilt Top Table Makeover
  24. HANDS FREE BABY ( &TODDLER;) CARRIER!
  25. Angie Pangies – Thickening Soup & a FREE COOKBOOK
  26. How To Make An Easy Magnetic Frame for Granparents
  27. Kaye (Our Son Used THIS to Learn to Read!)
  28. Divide a Room without building a wall
  29. Homemade toilet bowl cleaner (Household Mgmt 101)
  30. TIPS & Ideas for a BLUE Tablescape @MooreMinutes
  31. Removing tomato stains (Stain Removal 101)
  32. Jenny 867 – 5309 (Railroad Chai)
  33. Kalleen – Valentines decorations
  34. Credenza REDO by Snowman Hill
  35. Look past UGLY at the Goodwill! 100th post! (Dee)
  36. Homemade dishwasher detergent @ Quarry Orchard
  37. Kate @ modernalternativemama (cloth around house)
  38. Johnlyn (The Teenage Eating Plan)
  39. Homemade laundry soap & cleaners @ Quarry Orchard
  40. Being Thankful @ Wild and Crazy Sheep
  41. Internet Research (Melissa @Cellulite Investigatn)
  42. M&M; Bribery {Tara @ The Five of Us}
  43. Cooking Up A Family – Why EECH works for us!
  44. Valentine’s Week @ Remodelaholic
  45. Build a Table Style Bathroom Vanity
  46. Muses of Megret (Making handwriting more FUN!)
  47. Missy@Simply Red – Candy Bling (valentine necklace)
  48. JAN (SNACKS)
  49. Saving and Giving (Birthday on a Budget : The Food)
  50. Strawberry or Cherry Cheese Bread @ somewhatsimple
  51. Lost Socks Board @ somewhatsimple
  52. Nieces / nephews Birthdays (Eden)
  53. Superchikk (Temporal Thermometer)
  54. 5 Easy Steps to a Nourishing Diet
  55. Cheap natural cooking spray substitute (Mama Says)
  56. Nichole (getting up on time)
  57. flexible dreams (lego creations)
  58. Southern Fried Gal (Birthday Party Tips)
  59. The Prudent Homemaker ~ Chicken Flavored Rice
  60. Getting Ahead – tips to save for Christmas
  61. Rebecca at Turned Loose (meringue on pie!)
  62. Lots of Pics! Aprons and Bread @ 4 Sweet Sisters
  63. The Prudent Homemaker ~ EDIBLE LANDSCAPING
  64. 10 things from Jamie@All My Loose Ends
  65. Sarah @ Short Stop (CHICKEN TORTILLA SOUP Recipe)
  66. Conscious Shopper (DIY projects for cloth bags)
  67. Good for you – Chicken Chili Blanco
  68. 2 sides 2 Schwartz (no more mealtime struggles!)
  69. Moms Sharpening Moms (Discipline)
  70. Shelley @ MAHM (reviewing resolutions and goals)
  71. Simplified Saving (Plan for Christmas NOW)
  72. Heather – Sermon Notebooks
  73. Craft Night!
  74. ABC : Reading at Lunch
  75. Pantry Challenge Biggest Loser
  76. Feeding Four – Save $ While Doing Laundry
  77. Very Quick Salsa Tip!
  78. Rachel @ T&E; : Digital Bedtime
  79. Need a quick dessert? Quick Mama Fix!
  80. Bitterroot Mama (Clog Prevention)
  81. Staci @ teaching money to kids (swords of sharing)
  82. Simply Practical (making baby food)
  83. Mother Hen (Weight Loss)
  84. Lifestyle Logic – school crate
  85. Cindy @ She Sparkles (Kids Tea Time!)
  86. Jelli (Spotted Vitamins)
  87. Grateful for Grace (my fave kitchen tool / tip)
  88. Young Wifes Tale (Cleaning your keyboard)
  89. Spend A Little And Save A Lot (Cookbooks on Loan)
  90. Just Another Mom of 2 : DIFOP & Teaching my son
  91. SweetJeanette Valentines potpourri heart sachet
  92. Elaine H – Carafes
  93. EnviroBecca : science experiment for kids
  94. Mommy Bee – – baby cradle cap solution
  95. Mary Jo (HAVA Sling Review & coupon code)
  96. Powdered Donut Birthday Tower!
  97. Lisa @ Stop and Smell the Chocolates (Vitamins)
  98. mistie – INTRODUCING Ellie
  99. annies home – natural remedy unclog drains
  100. Mamas Laundry Talk (Storing Kids Pajamas Neatly)
  101. Grandmother Wren
  102. Simply Sweet Home (Broccoli Rice Soup)
  103. Simply Sweet Home (hot chocolate gift sets)
  104. Sonshine (carrots as sweetener)
  105. Aiming4Simple (Bathroom Cleaning for Busy Moms)
  106. Blue Ridge Baby – crib sheets
  107. My Frugal Lifestyle {Homemade Window Cleaner}
  108. PeacefulHome (toddler training tip)
  109. Happy Girl Print – Outs
  110. A Slob Comes Clean (Easy Way to Clean Play – doh Toy
  111. Amy@ Tiny Blessings (simple cheap purse organizer)
  112. Jenny @ The Zepf Life (Paid off van)
  113. I love fresh bread!
  114. 400 Things : Repeating Menu
  115. Favorite Kitchen Tools
  116. Abbi @ Proverbs 31 Living (life and eternity)
  117. Quick to the table dinner
  118. Creative2xmom (fantastic lemon bars)
  119. Smart Money Mom : Buyers Remorse or Stay the Course
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  121. Boise Bargain Shoppers (Meal Planning)
  122. My Heart My Home (Frugal Egg Spinach Casserole)
  123. Penny Raine ~ teamwork
  124. bedroom re – do from the little green bean
  125. everydaymom – a month of meals
  126. Bathroom Towels
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  128. Shana @ Prelude to Home More is Worse!!
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  130. Everything Moms : how to store sheets
  131. How to Resize Images for Free Online
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  137. InMyOwnStyle : Paint and Create a Signature Table
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  140. Laundry folding tip!
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{Madison Rose Vintage} Giveaway

*Updated with Winner* Congrats to Nesting in Pleasant View!

I love vintage things! If the paint is peeling or it has a musty smell, it appeals to me. Once my Mom said, “When y’all have a bit more money, do you think you’ll buy new stuff?”

Nope.
I’m so happy to introduce y’all to a great Etsy store: Madison Rose Vintage!
This store is right up my vintage alley. Here are some of my favorite pieces:
Vintage Red Child's Chair
Jar Full of Wooden Spools of Thread
Pink Metal Corner Shelf
The sweet owner and one of my readers, is offering a $50 gift certificate to a lucky reader today! Please leave a comment with one of your favorites from her store.
She is also offering a 20% discount! Just add the code WEARETHATFAMILY in the Etsy convo box.
This giveaway ends on Thursday.