My kids are like night and day. NIGHT and DAY. My firstborn daughter is strong. She is confident and she isn’t easily deterred. She likes to be in charge and doesn’t like to be told no. Her baby sister is a lot like her.
My son is in the middle. He is sensitive, a pleaser, a peacemaker. He wants everyone to get along and often gives up his own desires to make his sisters happy.
My kids are different, but by default, I parent them all the same.
And in the words of Dr Phil (who I do not watch on purpose) “How’s that working out for you?”
Um, some days, not so great.
I’m not intentionally parenting them all the same, I just haven’t known a better way and I even when I try to do it differently, I often slip back into it. Until now.
I’m a long-time fan of Grace Based Parenting. A couple of years ago, I shared their books and gave some away on my blog. Family Matters contacted me and asked if I wanted to try out a new tool to discover the heart of your child and parent to their uniqueness. I jumped at the chance. I don’t feel like I’m a bad parent, but I’m always open to becoming a better one.
Family Matters sent me this family tool smartly disguised as a family game: The Kids Flag Page.
The Kids Flag Page is a fun way for moms and dads to interact with their kids and truly discover the heart of each child—who God created them to be. When you follow the simple, step-by-step instructions to complete your child’s Flag Page and read the information in the accompanying book, you will:
- Discover the unique way God wired each of your children and how to best relate to them.
- Find the six key things that motivate your child – what they love the MOST about life.
- Connect with the heart of your child.
- Learn the do’s and don’ts of how to motivate, encourage, discipline and help each child succeed in life.
- Learn a comprehensive strategy for raising your kids in the power of God’s grace.
- Find out how to bring the best out of your strong-willed kids.
We took our kids out separately and “played the game” to discover their “countries.” I was amazed at the results! My hubby and I are reading the accompany book and trying to implement some of the discoveries.
I highly recommend this tool for every family.
Family Matters is giving away The Kid’s Flag Page today to a reader. Retail value $44. Please leave a comment telling me why this would be helpful for your family.
This giveaway ends on Thursday.