(Pre) WFMW Tip: My Book is FREE on Kindle Today

I’m sharing my WFMW tip early this week-A LINKY WILL BE ADDED AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS POST AT THE NORMAL TIME WFMW GOES UP TONIGHT.

Get my book, Don’t Make Me Come Up There! A devotional for busy moms, FREE on Amazon’s Kindle, right now. It just doesn’t get cheaper than FREE.

Even if you have a hard-copy, it’s a great quick read for those on-the-go moments when you need a lift-me-up. And did I mention free?

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If you don’t have a Kindle like me, you can download an Amazon Kindle Reader for free and there are apps for iPad, iPod, Blackberry, Droid, and your computer too.



Heartbroken

I’m hurting, y’all, and I’m desperately asking for prayers.

Three weeks ago, Maureen, our Kenyan Executive Director of Mercy House lost her precious 7 year old nephew to a preventable disease. It’s been a dark time.

Yesterday, his mother, Maureen’s only sister, also passed away.

I am heartbroken.

She is grief-striken.

Can you imagine losing two members of your immediate family within three weeks of each other?

Maureen is the leader of her family, looked to for decisions by all of her relatives. She is hurting and the days ahead will be dark, exhausting and financially draining.

I am asking every person who reads this post to stop and pray for Maureen. I know she is confused and has a lot of questions. I also know that she teaches me by the way she lives out her strong faith. Please pray for peace and understanding and divine strength.

Would you also pray that God will give me wisdom?

Thank you.

Happy MUD-her’s Day

My oldest was supposed to be filling up the plastic “baby” pool for her little sister.

I walked outside and my youngest greeted me with, “Hi, Mommy. We found some mud. DON’T BE MAD, okay?”

Happy Mud-her’s Day to you!

P.S. I chose not to get mad.

P.S.S. But I did lock the backdoor on my way back in.

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Mother’s Day isn’t joyful for everyone. There are some women in my life who are struggling this year. Don’t forget to hug your friend struggling with infertility, the mom who’s spending the day grieving for her lost child or missing her mother...

How [A Dad] Really Loves a Daughter

This beautiful guest post is from my husband.

I’ll never forget the bright eyed smile staring down into the home made wooden pin at seven feisty golden retriever puppies. They were almost as cute as my cotton topped 9 month old peering over the edge with wonder.  And then it happened.  It was the last thing I expected to hear.  I had been coaching her for weeks…”Da Da.”  I was taken aback when she squeeled and uttered the words, “Pup Pup.”  I was so proud.  It was adorable.  I should have seen it coming.  Today it is clear.  I was raising a very independent, strong, beautiful girl.

Over the years I’ve dressed up as a princess, carted bundled baby dolls, unhooked slimy fish, played in the mud, and taken her on her first real date.  I was made to be her dad.  Unfortunately, no one gave me a manual on how to do this.

The last year has had it’s challenges, more for me than her.  She is becoming a young lady.  This tween of mine has new distinct interests, and freely shares her autonomous, informed opinions.  Part little girl and part emerging woman. And me, I struggle, holding a handful of fine grain sand and the delicate balance shift that plays out between authority and influence.

My advice, embrace this transition.  That’s just what she and I did a few weeks ago at a unique event held annually  The Father Daughter Summit.

What I loved most about this purposed day was the format of the summit.  A general session followed by a Dad’s only or daughter’s only session, capped off with one hour of Daddy-Daughter Dialoque. My favorite part was the amazing talks with my girl during the Daddy Daughter Dialogue.  I want to share some of the things that I learned with you.

Investing in your children has legacy and eternal implications

Time, love, and availability translates into stability for our daughters

Your daughter sets her expectations about how a man should treat her by observing how you treat her mother.

As a father it is my responsibility to shepherd and develop my daughter’s relationship with God

The five needs of daughters (from www.fathers.com)

Comfort

  1. Allow her to express her opinions
  2. Actively listen to her – Dad’s this means undivided attention
  3. Respond with empathy

Guidance

  1. Discerning
  2. Correcting
  3. Teaching

Encouragement

  1. Become comfortable affirming her verbally
  2. Get involved in HER (emphasis added) pursuits
  3. Demonstrate confidence in her abilities

Vision

  1. Cast a positive vision
  2. Speak destiny – tell her  the future has great things in store

Protection

  1. Be aware and guard – this includes people, media, internet, clothing etc.
  2. Prayer – we can’t always be there be we can pray for her protection

A very special moment for me in this conference was the first Daddy-Daughter dialogue time.  We were discussing which needs and fears were most important in my daughter’s life.  I leaned in close and tried to maintain my composure as I watched tears stream down my 11 year old’s face.  “All of my friends parents are getting divorced.  I am really fearful that this will happen to you and mom and we won’t be a family anymore.”  I held my little girl in my arms and cried with her.  I assured her that divorce was not an option for Kristen and myself.  I then took her face in my hands, looked deeply in her scared eyes and said, “Honey, your mother and I love each other and we love you.  We are not ever getting a divorce.  I want you to know one thing though,  we may disappoint you sometimes and we may let you down, but your heavenly Father will never disappoint you or let you down.  As much as we love you, he loves you more.”

I certainly don’t know everything about raising a daughter, but I learned that day how important it is to love her mother!

WMFW: Backwards Edition

[Please feel free to link up any helpful tip to this party! But if you are having a hard time coming up with a tip, you can go with this week’s suggested theme and instead of sharing a tip–ask for one!]

So. I have a question:

I’m traveling overseas for over three weeks with my hubby and kiddos-a definite first for us.

What are your tips for traveling (my youngest is 4 1/2 and definitely the Wild Card, as we affectionately call her) on really long flights with youngish kids? In-country suggestions, things to take, etc?

[And please, I know many of you would never take your kids to Africa due to safety reasons, risks, vaccinations, etc. Now is NOT the time to tell me that. If you doubt our decision, please just pray for us.]

It’s your turn: Share a tip or ask a question!



The Adopt Shoppe {Giveaway}

*Updated with Winners* Congrats to random commenters Amanda & Mallory Whittington (no blogs, emailed y’all)

I love reading adoption stories. I love shopping with purpose. I love jewelry.

And when I can do all three at once?

(Did I mention I have multi-tasking obsessions?)

That’s why I have so much fun looking at The Adopt Shoppe!

This cute Etsy store supports one family’s journey to adopt two children from Taiwan. The beautiful handmade items are sentimental and cute:

I especially love:

and

This one just rings a bell with me:

Take a look. Come back and leave a comment on this post with what you like. Two random commenters will win a $25 gift certificate to shop!

And gift certificates to The Adopt Shopped are a perfect Mother’s Day gift!

This giveaway ends on Thursday.

This Is For Those Who Don’t Have It All Together (!!)

[I’ve shut down this giveaway in order to mail the books in time for Mother’s Day!] Random comment winners: Sarah at Mommylogues, reader Maggie Ortiz, Meghan at Spicy Magnolia, and reader Heidi. Please send me your addresses a.s.a.p. so I can mail the signed books!

I shut the van door quickly, mentally making a note to send my kids back outside to clean up The Filth…a lost shoe, crumbs, a jacket, a Bible, a coat hanger and a Christmas ornament (??)

My arms were full as I balanced groceries, the dry-cleaned suit hanging on the door and a box of donations for Mercy House. I dumped it all in the entry and closed the laundry room door, so the piles of laundry that needed washing and folding would stop LOOKING AT ME.

Look! an unedited picture

The youngest had her whine on and my son needed help with a school project. I set him in front of the computer (we use a lot of filters) to print out images of ferrets for his “pet project.” [Y’all there is some scary stuff on Google images]. I ended up spending an unplanned 30 minutes printing out pictures for him.

About that time, the cat and dog started in on the daily Frenemy routine and knocked over a plant, the phone rang, I realized I never turned on the crock pot for dinner and a strange man was at the door.

CALGON. (Y’all are probably too young to remember, but that’s what I wanted).

I ignored the phone, screamed at the pets, pulled out a box of macaroni and eye-balled the stranger from behind the column near the front door.

I debated whether I should answer it and pretend we weren’t home. Because getting MUGGED was not on my to-do list. Heck, the last hour wasn’t on my to-do list either.

But then my kids walked right passed me, blowing my cover and waved at the stranger.

I cautiously opened the door to a delivery guy with our Visas to Kenya. I sighed in relief-less from being mugged and more from getting our awaited documents.

And then the man said, “M’am? You might want to take your keys out of the door.”

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Don’t have it all together? Perfect. Tell me about a current MESS in your house and you’ll be entered to win one of FOUR signed copies of my book Don’t Make Me Come Up There!: Quiet Moments for Busy Moms(delivered in time for Mother’s Day to give or keep).

I’m also giving away one on Twitter today….follow here.

and one on Facebook….here.

Or you can purchase it for Mother’s Day for only $9.15!