He rushed in from work, worn from a long 12 hour day. Kids met him at the door, one asking for help with math homework, the other for basketball pointers. Our youngest held onto his leg with a death grip. We quickly kissed and I worked to get dinner on the table, knowing we’d have to shorten our family devotion, so we could make it to community group on time.
Our eyes locked with a long glance over the math book , one that said, “I want to connect with you.”
We both knew we had Mercy House reports to finish once the kids were in bed.
It’s a typical day at our house.
There’s a lot of talking in our house, just not so much with each other or privately.
I think that’s why we both push everything aside to make date nights possible. But let’s face it, connecting once a month isn’t enough. We make a habit of taking time (sometimes it’s over the phone or under the covers in the middle of the night) to ask each other questions.
I’ve been married to this guy for 17 years. We renewed our wedding vows six years ago during this difficult season and exchanged these rings. His has a special inscription on it. I’ve always known it was important to him. The other day he took off his ring while working out and called me frantically because he couldn’t find it.
I asked him, “What would you do if you couldn’t find it?” He said that’s not an option. And then he said, “it’s the most important physical possession I own. It represents so much to me.”
I had no idea.
But discovering this small bit of information made me feel closer to him. I tucked it in my heart and I’ve thought about it more than once.
Marriage takes work and communication. If you don’t ask, they won’t tell you what’s happening in their heart.
P. S. I searched the house while he was at work and found the ring in his pocket. Sheer joy returning it to him.
- 50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse on a Date Night
- 50 Annual Questions to Ask Your Mate
- Ten Questions Every Woman Should Ask Her Husband
- 50 Questions to Ask Your Wife
I’m wrapping up this little marriage series–for now. Thanks for sharing your hearts and being committed to love your spouse better.
15 days of marriage in review:
100 Ways to Make Your Marriage Rock (pinned over 20,000 times on Pinterest and brought a dose of controversy)