I roll over and the empty spot next to me isn’t even warm. He’s been gone since dawn, maximizing the hours, shouldering the pressure.
He comes in from a long day, and starts his next job of husband and father, crouching to build legos, cleaning up dinner, reading a book before bedtime. His head won’t hit the pillow until he spends a couple of hours preparing his teaching sessions for our trip to Africa.
He starts it all over again the next day.
He gives and he gives. And then he gives some more.
He is tired, weary from all the giving and yet he continues to father on.
My eyes fill as I run my hand over his broad shoulders carrying the weight, shielding our family, offering protection and provision.
With a word, I can add to his load or lighten it. I can demand more money, more time, more stuff, more, more, more and with every complaint, I weigh him down.
Or I can ease the burden by encouraging and whispering, reminding: you are enough, thank you, I trust you, thank you for giving, you are doing a great job.
My husband is a better father, when I’m a better wife.
How to encourage your husband as a father:
- Tell him you respect him
- Even better, show him: don’t question or scrutinize every action he takes
- Trust him as a father: let him have a say in parenting decisions
- Thank him regularly for being there.
- Give him a break: from the honey do’s and the house-encourage him to take time for himself
Part of the reason our world is so broken is because of father’s who aren’t there. If the father in your life is a constant, they need to know they are appreciated every day.
We are celebrating my husband’s health too, today! In November 2010, he was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes, with a devastating A1C (overall blood sugar average) of 8.4, which indicates poor health. For 18 months he has changed his lifestyle by exercising and eating right. This week his A1C was 5.9—excellent health (for a non-diabetic)! He is focused on living well and living long so his children can have a father.
Happy Father’s Day, Terrell. We love you!