I’m 25, about to get married in June next year and so there is a real curiosity on how to be a good husband. I’ve read a few books already. For Men Only and Christian Husband. I think my fiancee is the most amazing woman in the world and I want to reciprocate that. I guess I’m looking for from the wife’s perspective.
I hope I’m not being too intrusive. I don’t think guys are supposed to ask girls for advice on how to be a husband.
Thanks for your time,
I love that you asked me this question. I usually tell myself that men don’t read my blog. But I’m sure you’re not the only one, so I thought I’d write this out loud for the men out there. I’ve never been a husband, but I’m married to a good one. If my husband wrote this list, it would look different, so I’m glad you’re asking from a wife’s perspective. I’m going to tell you what makes my man such a good husband. I think a lot of young men can learn from him.
- He listens to me. Looks me in the eye, stops multi-tasking and just quietly listens. I love that about him.
- He doesn’t try and fix whatever I tell him. He resists the urge to make it all right and just lets me talk.
- He encourages me like no one else. He is my best friend and acts like it.
- He believes in my crazy dreams and pushes me to chase them.
- He values what I do, even if I don’t get paid for it (being a mom, volunteering, etc)
- He recognized years ago that an occasional house cleaner would let me focus on the things only I can do.
- He tells me when he’s struggling and let’s me help if I can.
- He works hard. I’ve never once doubted he would do whatever he has to in order to provide for our family.
- He likes being with me, even if it’s just taking a drive or grocery shopping.
- He wants me and pursues me. Enough said.
- He dreams big with me. We’ve done some crazy stuff in our marriage. We are a team.
- He brings me sweet tea regularly.
- He turns off my alarm so I can sleep a little longer.
- He serves me on a daily basis.
- He doesn’t let me manipulate him. This is big. Because the bad part of me would.
- He leads our family.
- He picks up his dirty clothes (most of the time).
- He trusts me and we are partners in this life.
- He prays for me and with me.
- He loves God more than he loves me.
I’m just scratching the surface, Billy, but I hope this gives you some direction. Oh and one more thing, I think part of the answer you’re looking for can be found in your question. Don’t ever stop asking it.
Do you have any advice for Billy? Please add it in the comments…