Raising Boys to be Men of Faith: 4 Things We Can Teach Our Sons

When nurses handed us our swaddled babies, we sighed deeply. We might have kissed their downy heads or examined them head to toe. We might have felt a bubble of joy deep down or wept openly. We might have done all of these things. And while the words may not have been spoken openly, in that moment we had achieved what women from the first century and still in many countries today deem the highest act of motherhood: we had produced a son.

I have one son. He was fathered by my husband, an only son, too. With this child, a family name continues. He is now 11 years old and he has lived up to the words scrawled over his crib. Definition of a Boy:// Noise with dirt on it.

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Yes, he is typical. He is his Dad’s shadow, loves to taunt sisters, doesn’t mind a stain or two, generally has messy hands, runs instead of walks, eats and eats and then asks for a snack. His backpack is a disaster, he forgets his lunch in the car and leaves his clothes on the floor.

But there were things I didn’t expect along the way: like the way he reaches for my hand, is naturally kind to others, always roots for the underdog, how he feels joy and pain deeply and is ruled by a desire to make peace. I didn’t expect to be his first love.

Lately his Daddy has been talking to him privately about boy things. And girls. With it has come a maturity, I didn’t expect. It’s a necessary hard part of parenting. We must remind ourselves if we don’t teach them, the world will show them. I can’t help but think about my son as a grown up man, someday, someone’s husband, a father. It makes me want to raise the kind of boy I would want my girls to marry. It makes me want to look ahead because the future will be here tomorrow; it makes me want to raise a man of faith.

I want to encourage you, Boy Mom, whether your babe is in your arms or his shoes are smelling up his room right now,  teaching your son now about grace and girls, sex and faith is not only building character today, it’s preparing him to be a good man, husband and father in the future.. You’re not only his mother, you’re his example. So much of who my son will be is being formed now and who he is today was influenced years ago. You can never start too young and it’s never too late to start.

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Comments

  1. 1

    says

    So beautifully said. I am feeling that weight right now with my oldest turning 13 in less than a week and our second son now 11. I remember the days when I thought the challenge of changing diapers or helping them learn to read was so huge. Little did I know, that my responsibility as a mom would only grow… teaching them to be real men. Thanks for the reminder.

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    Mother of two prodigal sons says

    And please also remind yourself that you can also do everything “right” and your child may still choose a different path. I’m sorry, but I shudder when I read titles like this, because there are those of us who have worked hard to teach our children these things, and they still choose to turn their backs on God. And it makes us hurt a little more and feel a little more guilty, and wonder for the millionth time what we could have done differently. Prov. 22:6 is not a promise, and that’s a hard lesson I’ve had to learn over the past few years. There are no guarantees. The best thing you can do for your children is to pray for them, pray hard. Keep praying for them after they accept Jesus, after they have been baptized, after they go on missions trips – keep praying that they remain in Him. Because some don’t. And let them know you don’t have all the answers, and that it’s OK to have doubts. I just really want to encourage you all, whether your children are still following Him or not, to never ever stop praying for your kids, no matter their age, their spiritual maturity, or their proximity to God.

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      says

      Yes, of course, you’re right. My son is 11 and has just barely begun this life. We can only lead them to Christ as parents, we can’t make them follow. It’s their choice. I’ll be praying for your sons.

  3. 4

    says

    Thank you for the reminder! Even the little things we say shape their thinking. My little guy is just 6 months old (tomorrow). (He’s the first and potentially the only boy on my husband’s side in this generation!) Just the other day I was chatting with him about how pretty his sister was/is. And telling him that sisters feel special when you TELL them they look pretty. (The 2yo had just come in to show off her dress-up outfit and ask me if she was cute. lol)

    And it’s true. The little boy across the street made my day a few days ago when he noticed and complimented my haircut! (Now how many GROWN men would have done that? ;) )

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