I used to hate mirrors.
I avoided them as often as I could. I would get ready in the morning for school—squinting and inwardly criticizing my reflection and then I would avoid looking again until the end of the day.
It wasn’t the mirror I hated, really. It was the reflection.
It was me. Because all I could see was imperfection.
I spent a lot of those teen years wishing I was taller, curvier in some places, thinner in others. I longed for my boring brown hair to be less wavy, for my skin to be clearer, for more beauty.
I wanted to be beautiful. But, really, I wanted others to think I was beautiful.
It wasn’t just outward approval I longed for; I wanted to be liked. Loved.
But it’s a futile journey-this self-loathing and it leads to ugliness that runs deep. And no cosmetic magic makeover can ever repair the broken reflections. We won’t ever be enough in those mirrors.
People spend millions of dollars in lotions and potions and peels and injections trying. It’s artificial.
“Until you are convinced of God’s incredible love for you, you will continue looking for replacement love everywhere,” Love Idol: Letting Go of Your Need for Approval – and Seeing Yourself through God’s Eyes.
I found true love for myself and mostly others when I accepted God’s great love for me.
I put away the mirrors that compare and contradict and condemn and I traded them for something pure and holy. I may never understand its depths, but in that deep pool of unfathomable love, I saw myself as a reflection of Christ.
It changed everything for me.
The overwhelming, ever-present need for approval lessened. I realized it was okay to be unapproved by others because I was preapproved by God. Nothing else required. Just like I am.
I remember the first time I saw a picture of myself and thought, “She is pretty.”
It was startling because I realized that she was me.
I was being transformed from the inside out.
I still had the same unruly brown curls and average face, but I saw a different reflection.
And it had absolutely nothing to do with what I looked like.
I dare you to trade in the mirrors in your life that crave approval. It’s time to exchange them for always-sent preapproval in God’s eyes. Love Idol by my friend Jennifer Dukes Lee will help you find the acceptance we long for. I loved this important book and you will too!
Today, she is graciously giving away two copies. Please leave a comment to be entered.
And if you really want to know how God feels about you, click here now.