The Surprises of Motherhood

Motherhood has surprised me.

And I’m not just talking about my third child.

Every phase and every stage have left me saying, “Well, hello, there. I wasn’t expecting you.”

Like the burping-everything-you-say-phase–I’m so over you.


We are also currently in the siblings-arguing-over-every-little-thing-stage.

This one might kill me. Or cause me to kill. I actually said the other day, “I hope you have three kids just like you!” And then I think I heard my dear mom laughing wildly somewhere.

But there have been good surprises, too. Phases I didn’t know would bring me so much joy- like my son’s quick wit or the way my teen daughter helps dress me.


Or the way it feels to hold my children-as crying babies, or sulky teens, we are a perfect fit and even when we hurt each other, we heal each other.

Motherhood is hard.

I lay awake at night and pray for my children and mostly for their mother.  I am torn almost every day. Am I hurting or helping? Do they need grace or discipline? God help me to know which to offer when.

Motherhood is beautiful.


I see glimpses of who they are becoming. It takes my breath away–these small moments of glory when they choose well, put others first, live out integrity when no one is watching.

Yes, I have been surprised by motherhood.

If you’re a mom or have a mom, I encourage you to read my friend Lisa-Jo’s brand new book, Surprised by Motherhood: Everything I Never Expected about Being a Mom. It’s a beautiful, uplifting story that will remind you to look for the breathtaking moments in the mundane. It will encourage you to keep up the good, hard work.

And on a tough day that leaves me speechless or a good one that surprises me with delight, this book works for me and it will for you, too.


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    The hallmark of good moms everywhere = laying awake at night, worried, praying, hoping that they are doing the right thing. Love wins out, momma. That much I know.

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    Kelly says

    I know God is hearing me…. I’ve seen his miracles work in all 3 of my teenagers… It makes cry happy tears just as often as sad angry tears…You really took the words out of my mouth Kristen.. THANK YOU!! You wonderful AWESOME mom!!!

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    Thank you for putting to words the beautiful balance we mothers try to keep. I am thanking God that His mercies are new every morning in this motherhood journey. This post has been very encouraging to me.

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    Kathi says

    I love your blogs…. As a mom we always want to do the “right” thing. One day when I felt myself move into “kill” mode as the squabbles were endless. I knew I was about to be “out of control” – so I announced I was putting _myself_ in “time out” for 10 minutes. I went to my bedroom and closed the door.

    Stunned silence, conspiratorial whispering, knocks on my door “are you alright?”. It was beautiful!

    My beautiful children are now in college – and are not always best of friends – but they are smart, independent and caring individuals of whom I am very proud.

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    Oh My goodness Thank you! I’ve been searching for a good christian mom blog and yay I think I found it. I’m so glad I found your blog. Especially on days when i need extra encouragement being a mama to a temper tantrum pitching 2 year old. God Bless you!

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