That’s how many of you answered my parenting survey a couple of weeks ago. I was humbled by your enthusiasm.
I closed it after 24 hours because it will take some time to dig into the thousands of comments and answers. I will be spending the next few months pouring over them as I write my next book, a daunting challenge and tentatively titled Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World.
Yeah. A parenting book. So, you could say I’ve never felt more inadequate.
This won’t be a book about my successful parenting, I’m writing it from the trenches. Because I figure we hear enough from the experts and sometimes it’s helpful to hear from people just like us.
From the preliminary results of the survey, I can see the similarities in the parents who read here, but it’s the differences that really caught my attention. From atheists to Jesus freaks, from young parents with babies to grandma’s with an empty nest, from low-income to the very wealthy, from those who spoil their kids to those who don’t, we are different. Moms. Dads. Divorced. Married. Homeschool. Public. Strict and Lenient.
It may seem like this is a weakness. 5000 opinions and answers, countless ways we could disagree. But the strength of this community is actually in our differences, not our similarities. This is what makes us stronger: the chance to learn from each other. The opportunity to respect what makes us different.
It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.” -Audre Lorde
This survey proved something else:
We love our kids.
We are imperfect, but we try.
We admit when we aren’t doing our best and we try harder.
We want the best for them, even if we don’t always know what that is. But we will keep trying to find it.
That’s the one thing we all have in common.
And it’s enough.
So, if you’re a parent reading this blog, I want you to say thank you and stick around: This is your invitation into the Intentional.
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