WFMW: What I Learned About Marriage from a Fitness Guru {Giveaway}

I’d like to introduce you to my friend Arlene Pellicane. She is a speaker, author, wife and mom of three. She writes about creating a happy home in 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife and 31 Days to a Happy Husband. Find free resources to encourage you at and Take the Quiz to find out of you are a happy wife.

Congrats to random book winners: Krista and Heidi.

Guest Post:  by Arlene Pellicane 

Whether you’ve had a baby three months ago or 13 years ago, it seems like that baby weight is awfully hard to shake. I get this. I had 3 babies and 3 miscarriages in my thirties.

My go-to exercise solution with young kids in the house? Buying a fitness DVD that promised to change my life and waistline.

Like a motivated mama, I faithfully clicked play. I stretched. I jumped. I lifted. Then something the instructor said really caught my attention.

You have to force your body to adapt!

She persuaded, “Don’t give up. Tell your body you will keep going. You have to force your body to adapt!”

Huffing, puffing and desperately wanting to stop, I kept forcing my body to adapt.

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I realized this saying wasn’t only applicable to my workout. It was perfect for my marriage.

Marriage is about being adaptable, isn’t it? Sometimes you have to force yourself to adapt. To flex with changing circumstances. To adjust to the quirkiness you used to love about your husband.

When James and I were married 15 years ago, there were many adaptations for both of us. Even vacations required adjusting to each other. You see, James loved to camp under a different spot under the stars each night in the tent he had lugged around all day in his backpack.

I liked to stay in a lodge with a soft pillow and running water nearby at all times.

Our first camping trip as newlyweds was a clash of expectations and emotions. Usually I am a bright and cheery wife, but on the two-hour trip to the campsite to meet couples from a new church, I was quiet. Sullen. Irritable.

Right before we entered the campsite, James pulled the car over.

“Are you going to be like this all weekend? Because if you are, we can just head back home. This is supposed to be fun.”

Do you know what I said?

“You mean, I didn’t have to come?”

Through tears, I realized that I needed to change my attitude about camping so the weekend wouldn’t be ruined. I had to force myself to adapt.

I can’t say I had the time of my life sleeping in that tent, but I survived. I learned a valuable lesson early in our marriage. Happiness isn’t about where I sleep or how out-of-my-comfort zone I am. It’s a choice I make and it not only affects my life, it affects my husband’s well being too.

Just like forcing myself to work out for the sake of my health, I have to force myself sometimes to stretch and adapt to the needs of my husband. When I’m more bendable and flexible (picture a flexible straw here moms), I’m happier and more easy going.

And easier to be with.

Make a commitment to force yourself to adapt, to push yourself further than you think you can go. Be a constant learner about marriage and an enthusiastic student of your spouse. This doesn’t happen by accident. It happens intentionally, by an act of your will.

So press play. It’s grow time.



Today, Arlene is giving away 2 copies of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. 

Leave a comment if you’d like to enter.

Being a happy wife works for me!

WFMW: Free Printables

I bought a color printer on clearance for $26 bucks that included ink cartridges the other day.


In the past, if I’ve needed color copies, I would run down to Office Max. Which means, I don’t have color copies very often. Because nobody has time for that.

You might say that my color printing  has recently peaked. But seriously, you can do cute things with paper and color ink.


The “burlap” alphabet letters I added to my mantle.

Here are some of my favorites for free printables-

It works for me!

WFMW: A {Sweet} Deal

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Check out The Vintage Pearl’s newest pieces that will make your {heart} beat wildly!

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Perfect to give or keep.

What works for you?

WFMW: How to Play Chore Roulette With Your Family

Oh, it’s a fun game, for sure.

At least for Mom.


We started something right about the turn of the new year and it has been very successful. I like to call it Chore Roulette because I’m wild and crazy like that.

We have a daily chore chart and my kids are in charge of their own laundry every weekend. But every other Saturday or so we do a deep(isn) cleaning where we actually break out the mop and vacuum cleaner, scrub a toilet and change the sheets. And I’m always looking for ways to teach my kids about hard work and less entitlement. And this is doing the trick.

How to play:

Divide up chores that need to be done in your house. I pick the ten most needed each week–from mopping and vacuuming, to organizing to the dreaded toilets. There are 5 people in our family, so each player draws 2 chores. If the chores need a lot of supervision (like changing all the bedsheets and it’s not something our 7 year old can do, we rig the game. Because we can).

Rules: You get what you get and you don’t throw a fit. My daughter got mopping and literally did a cartwheel she was so happy. I have no idea why and my son got to clean toilets two weeks in a row. Bummer. May the odds be ever in your favor.

If you complain, you get a bonus round which is an additional chore. We set the timer for 1.5 hours and we all divide and conquer.

We turn up Toby Mac or the Frozen soundtrack (I’m sorry, honey) and we clean.

It’s a great way to spend a Saturday morning!

WFMW: How I Became a Knitter {Loom Knitting}

My 14 year old spent most of the Christmas break knitting and reading.

She said when she’s 70 years old she’s going to stay up all night and party.

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She got a knitting loom for Christmas from extended family. It probably would have stayed in the box (because I’m absolutely no help), but we had three cold days at my inlaw’s farm and a cousin who knew how to loom knit and was willing to teach the steps over and over (thanks, Erika!)

I tried knitting once. It turns out I have a lot of tension because I had a very tight, very stressed yarn square. As I watched my daughter knit a gorgeous scarf, I knew I had to try again. I love how the loom helps regulate the tension of the yarn and I actually find it relaxing and fun.

My first scarf:

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We started with a simple scarf loom like this Boye Rectangle Loom Set. It’s less than $15 to get started with the yarn and tools and even my 7 year old has learned how to loom knit. There are several other types of looms that can make dozens of items-from hats to socks, blankets, etc.

And now we are out of control (little sister thanking big sister for her new scarf she knit on the way home):

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I’m not a visual learner, so I’m not about to attempt to explain HOW you do this. But these resources helped me when I got stuck once I got back home: Fantastic tutorial here and I also bought I Taught Myself To Loom Knit Book.

Happy knitting. It actually works for me!