If Your Marriage is Broken

It was 8:30 in the morning on a Saturday in January and we were still in bed.

Is there a better way to begin a weekend?

My husband flipped to his side and said, “I’m sorry.”

I stretched and yawned myself awake and that’s when I remembered we’d gone to bed the night before irritated at each other.

It was a stupid little fight. Aren’t they always? It wasn’t really about the price of ski pants (don’t ask). It was simply the result of two thick-headed people who both wanted their way and refused to budge.

We’ve been married 19 years. You’d think we would have moved past this stage–the one where we argue over insignificant things, get mad and pout. And we have in many ways. It happens less often and we get less angry and over it more quickly, but every once in awhile, I want my way more than I want to get along.

“I’m sorry, too,” I whispered.

And then we talked about why we got mad in the first place. It’s always a deeper issue. Most arguments about money are really about fear. Most arguments about parenting boil down to control or the lack of it. But on this particular lazy Saturday morning, the conversation led to a long talk about things we were struggling with personally.

When I reluctantly left the cozy down comforter for a quick shower, I felt like I knew my husband a bit more. I could see the stress and burden he carried more clearly. And I wanted to bless him. He understand why I was on edge and we vowed to love each other better.

That pillow talk wouldn’t have happened without first the struggle. When we can push past our little grievances and irritations and lift the veil of life and circumstances, we can grow together towards God, instead of apart.

Our world used to fix broken things, remember that? Our grandmothers darned socks with holes in them. Our grandfathers rebuilt and repaired damaged things. Our moms superglued little $1 store figurines.

Now we throw things away.

We live in a disposable culture that tosses damaged things because it’s easier. It’s quicker, it doesn’t require hard work or humility.

if your marriage is broken, don't throw it away. Fix it

If your marriage is broken, don’t throw it away.

Fix it.

Take your marriage back and fight for it. Talk. Forgive. Change. Confess. Laugh. Counsel. I understand that not every marriage is repairable. But for those who let little issues become bigger than they should, I urge you to fix what’s broken, instead of starting over.

We don’t do a lot for Valentine’s Day at our house. But we proudly show off our love all year long–there are less repairs that way when the storms of life hit.

While these shirts won’t fix a broken marriage, they are an easy way to get started–new Union28 “My Husband/Wife Rocks” T-shirts!

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[Updated with winner, Rachel, random commenter #34]

One couple will receive a his and her shirt and a pair of *ahem* these or these (winner’s choice).  Leave a comment if you’d like to win.

Discount Code:  Use Code U28LOVE5 at checkout for $5 OFF any Union28.net order of $25 or more.  (Does not include Clearance items or Gift Certificate purchases) OFFER VALID THUR February 14, 2014.

Make every day special, even the broken ones.

Origami Owl {Giveaway}

Congrats to comment #107, Jennie (check your email)

I love a good story.

And I’m not just talking about books. I love the story that life tells–the ups and downs, highs and lows.

Have you heard of Origami Owl? It’s jewelry that tells your story.

It’s such a fun idea!

THE MISSION OF THIS COMPANY: IS TO BE A FORCE FOR GOOD; TO LOVE, INSPIRE

+ MOTIVATE PEOPLE OF ALL AGES TO REACH THEIR DREAMS +

EMPOWER THEM TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF OTHERS.

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Here’s how it works: Visit Origami Owl

Step 1|Choose your charms:

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Step 2| Choose your locket:

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Step 3| Choose your chain:

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My oldest daughter is about to turn the big

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And she loves stories. And jewelry.

I can’t wait to give her this for her birthday!

1. gold numbers 1 &4  2. silver locket  | 3. garnet birthstone | 4. flute | 5. Eiffel tower

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Origami Owl has so many choices to represent all the chapters in your life. And I think it makes a pretty special gift.

Today, my sponsor is giving away this gorgeous set to one lucky winner:

Gold Living Locket with Heart Window Plate

 

Take a look and tell me what you love in the comment section and that will be your entry to win!

Life Verse Design {Giveaway}

UPDATE: Gretchen N. has been selected as the winner of this giveaway.

If you stood in the center of my home and read my walls, you would get a pretty clear indication that I’m trying to send a message. I love inspiration.

Because sometimes you just need to walk in the bathroom on a Monday morning and see this on the wall:
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Doesn’t that make you feel better?

The other day I was talking to a new Christian. She said, “I’m trying to figure out how to fit Jesus into my life.” The words were profound and I thought about them all day. I realized I spent the first 37 years of my life trying to fit Jesus in my life and the last 4 trying to fit my life into Jesus.

Life Verse Designs sent me this beautiful 11×14 gallery wrapped canvas. I love the reminder. The truth, especially in this season of Thanksgiving.

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Words are moving. Scripture is powerful. I want to be reminded throughout the day and I want my home to reflect what God has done in me.

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Life Verse Designs takes Scripture, inspiring words and pictures and creates art to decorate your life with. Check out some of these favorites.

Plus, check out these combined offers so you can get your Christmas shopping done early:

* FREE shipping on any order in the shop {no coupon needed}
* BUY 3 8×10 fine art prints & receive the 4th print FREE {do NOT put the 4th print in your cart or you will be charged for it; at checkout in “Other Instructions” box write in the name & color of the 4th print you desire}
Life Verse Designs is also generously donating a portion of any sale made to Mercy House. At checkout in the “Other Instructions” box, simply write in “Purchase to benefit Mercy House”.
Today, Life Verse Designs is offering one reader their choice of any 11×14 gallery wrapped art in the store (no custom orders). A $125 value! Tell me what you love for an entry.

Some {of Our} Favorite Things

Do I have something fun for y’all today: $300 in fabulous goodies!
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With Christmas just over a month away, a group of us thought it would be fun to host a giveaway of some of our favorite things. Every little bit helps with the Christmas list, doesn’t it? I’m honored to be hosting this giveaway with these women. I love each of them and respect their voice in the blogging community. I hope you’ll take the chance to get to know them!

This giveaway is hosted by:

Jessica from The Mom Creative
Kristen from We are That Family
Kristen from Rage Against the Minivan
Lisa-Jo from Lisa-Jo Baker
Lisa from Lisa Leonard Designs
Maggie from Gussy Sews

Use the Rafflecopter below to win one of these six prizes:
    1. A Quinn infinity scarf from Krochet Kids. The scarf is handmade in Uganda. Krochet Kids creates sustainable economic development programs that support holistic growth of individuals and communities living in poverty.
    2. $50 gift certificate to Krafty Kash designs – jewelry with your favorite word featured from a vintage dictionary.
    3. $50 gift certificate to Lisa Leonard Designs, a company that creates hand-stamped jewelry and gifts
    4. $50 gift certificate to Gussy Sews, a handmade shop full of brightly colored ruffled and sassy accessories
    5. A beautiful scarf and leather wallet ($50 value) from fashionABLE, a non-profit organization supporting women in Africa
    6. $50 gift certificate to anything @ The Mercy Shop, a fair-trade marketplace for products (art, jewelry, inspiring accessories) made by residents at Mercy House Kenya

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Happy Thursday everyone!

Lilla Rose {Giveaway}

UPDATE: Katheryn is the winner of this giveaway. Congratulations Katheryn!

We’ve talked about hair before.

I’m in the s-l-o-w process of letting mine grow out. My goal is pony tail length because I’m wanting to take my hair care to an all-new casual level.

My teenager has amazing hair. Proof:

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And she can recreate just about every hair braiding tutorial she’s ever seen. It’s a gift. Because I’m in charge of my 6 year old’s hair and I can do two things: one pony tail or two pony tails at the same time. I think that’s called gifted.

Lilla Rose, a new sponsor on my blog, sent my daughter a beautiful beaded hair band. She wears it several different ways. You can look that cute and cool when you’re a month shy of 14. She also dresses me now.

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There are all kinds of cute hair accessories, like the hair sticks, bobby pins and really cool flexi clips.

Today, Bokerah, Independent Lilla Rose Consultant is giving away a $50 gift certificate so your hair can dazzle. Check out their products and leave a comment with what you’d like to try.