The Surprises of Motherhood

Motherhood has surprised me.

And I’m not just talking about my third child.

Every phase and every stage have left me saying, “Well, hello, there. I wasn’t expecting you.”

Like the burping-everything-you-say-phase–I’m so over you.

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We are also currently in the siblings-arguing-over-every-little-thing-stage.

This one might kill me. Or cause me to kill. I actually said the other day, “I hope you have three kids just like you!” And then I think I heard my dear mom laughing wildly somewhere.

But there have been good surprises, too. Phases I didn’t know would bring me so much joy- like my son’s quick wit or the way my teen daughter helps dress me.

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Or the way it feels to hold my children-as crying babies, or sulky teens, we are a perfect fit and even when we hurt each other, we heal each other.

Motherhood is hard.

I lay awake at night and pray for my children and mostly for their mother.  I am torn almost every day. Am I hurting or helping? Do they need grace or discipline? God help me to know which to offer when.

Motherhood is beautiful.

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I see glimpses of who they are becoming. It takes my breath away–these small moments of glory when they choose well, put others first, live out integrity when no one is watching.

Yes, I have been surprised by motherhood.

If you’re a mom or have a mom, I encourage you to read my friend Lisa-Jo’s brand new book, Surprised by Motherhood: Everything I Never Expected about Being a Mom. It’s a beautiful, uplifting story that will remind you to look for the breathtaking moments in the mundane. It will encourage you to keep up the good, hard work.

And on a tough day that leaves me speechless or a good one that surprises me with delight, this book works for me and it will for you, too.


What’s On My Reading List This Month

The table next to my bed has a pile of books I’m digging into this month and probably the next couple. If anything, I’m an ambitious reader.

When do you read?

My reading habits: I always have a book tucked in my purse, in my car, on my Kindle app, next to my bed for those moments during the day when I’m waiting or trying to fall asleep. I’m also a bathtub reader. I am usually working thru several books at one time and usually read non-fiction, although I love a good fiction book when I’m traveling. I’m also not much of a TV watcher.

The fun thing about some of the books on my nightstand right now is they were written by friends! (Amazon affiliate links):

Books on Nightstand

1. Miraculous Movements: How Hundreds of Thousands of Muslims Are Falling in Love with Jesus:: Oh, this book is rocking our world. It’s a long God story, but if you have a heart for missions and discipleship, this book is a must read. I heard the author speak recently and met some of the heroes on the pages in Kenya recently. It’s helping to shape so much of our work with Mercy House.

2. Live to Give: Let God Turn Your Talents into Miracles:: This is our new “family read.” Every month or so, we start a new book to read together out loud as a family after dinner. I’m really excited to dive into this book with my family. It’s sure to be inspiring!

3. Happy Wives Club: One Woman’s Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage:: I love writing about marriage and being married. I’m a happy wife and I love Fawn’s heart to join a million happy wives to support the beauty of everyday marriage.

4. Notes from a Blue Bike: The Art of Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World:: I’m digging into Tsh’s memoir that challenges us to live slower, intentional lives. I love her global viewpoint and can’t wait to apply her suggestions to live my life instead of letting life live me.

5. You’re Going to Be Okay: Encouraging Truth Your Heart Needs to Hear, Especially on the Hard Days:: Holley is the best encourager I know. Some days, especially the hard ones, we need to remember-despite life’s ups and down-we are going to be okay because we have Jesus.

6. The Locust Effect: Why the End of Poverty Requires the End of Violence
(not pictured):: I just ordered this book on Amazon. It will be hard to read, but absolutely necessary. If you’ve ever wanted to help the poor, this is a must read. It’s the paradigm shift we need to make to reach the poor in their reality of violence.

How about you? What you are you reading lately?


The One Thing That Has Brought Our Family Together: {Review & Giveaway}

UPDATE: The winners of this giveaway are Mrs. R., Colleen B and Erin K.

I have two kids in junior high now, three in school.

And I feel like I owe all parents of kids age 10+up, a big fat apology.

Because. Y’all. We have spent years trying to parent intentionally, slowing down our lives, limiting extracurricular stuff. Then this season started and I’m looking at the calendar in shock. With just one after-school activity each and church stuff, it looks like it’s going to explode.

And I’m so thankful the ignorant, naive Kristen from years past, started one very important habit.

If there has been one thing that has strengthened our family and kept us together, around the table, around a chair, around each other, it’s reading together.

Not only have our kids fallen in love with reading (yes, they are the ones with flashlights under the sheets because they just need to finish the chapter, Mom), they have fallen in love with reading together.

We’ve gone on wild adventures and learned about different cultures together. Books have led us into deeper community with each other. They have urged us to ask hard questions, press into our struggles. They have been a catalyst to richer family life.

We read around the table after dinner regularly. We also read individually with each of our kids. We pat the space next to us and say, “Let’s read, together.”

And as my kids have grown, the books have grown with us. But no matter how old they are, they want to read.

I have to tell you about the latest one that has captured my family, all of us.

My husband reads to our first grader every. night. She loves it and looks disappointed when I step in to substitute. I love that they love this time together. She is reading on her own (you know the sweet first grade KIND OF READING THAT MAKES YOU WANT TO STICK A FORK IN YOUR EYEBALL), but there’s just something about reading a chapter book together that is special.

Plus, it’s a lot quicker.

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Begin, the first book in the Growly Series by Phil and Erin Ulrich started out as their book. It’s an epic adventure about a little bear named Growly and my daughter begs for another chapter every time they finish one. Last night they finished chapter 17. What’s funny is I can tell you every single thing that’s happened in the adventure so far and so can my son. We just couldn’t not listen! It’s wholesome family reading at it’s best and it’s also illustrated beautifully.

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The vivid descriptions make it easy to imagine exactly what’s happening in the story. It’s a great book to read to your 4-7 year old and children 8-11 would enjoy reading it on their own. We can’t wait to read what happens next to Growly! It’s sure to be adventurous.

The other night it was getting late and my hubby was busy with work, so I picked up where they left off. A few paragraphs in, my husband found us cuddled up reading and asked us what had happened so far. I handed over the book and smiled.

I’m not sure who loves Growly more! You can get your own copy here for $8.99

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The author Erin, who is also my blog designer and a sweet friend, sent us a copy to read together and today she’s giving away three copies. Hop over and check out the book and the amazing pictures and leave a comment here to be entered.

And please, make time in  your crazy busy lives to read together. You won’t ever regret the adventures it takes you on!


WFMW: All About The Books on My Table

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One of the happiest things about being a writer is getting to know other writers. It’s a weird when the online world collides with real life and bloggers become friends. Do you know what’s even better?  Reading your friends’ books. Here are three new ones on my bedside table.

[Click on the images below to visit *my Amazon affiliate links to learn more about these fabulous books.]

Reading on my own: A Million Little Ways: Uncover the Art You Were Made to Live by Emily P Freeman
I would never consider myself an artist. Actually after one day in art class in the 7th grade, I realized I’d made a grave mistake when the teacher asked us to draw the proverbial fruit in the bowl and mine looked more like an assortment of minions. But after reading Emily’s book, I’m convinced I’m an artist. I still shy away from sketching, but I’m living daily art. We all are, a daily living sacrifice. This book is for the person who wonders if what they do matters. It’s an important book. It changes the way you see your everyday living. It reminds you of your purpose and of our ultimate goal: to glorify God. The world is a canvas and this book is your guide to make art right where you are.

Reading with my teen daughter: Speak Love: Making Your Words Matter by Annie Downs
When my teenager and I sit down with each other and read together, something powerful happens: we connect. Even after long days where we struggle to get on the same page, when we come together (literally on the same page), it deepens our relationship. We are loving Annie’s new book, Speak Love. I don’t always speak lives with my words and at one point in the book, my daughter and I apologized to each other for using words as a weapon against one another. I love the way Annie writes to teen girls. She’s real and funny and challenges the reader to speak into our own lives and into the lives of others.

Reading with my little girl: Audrey Bunny

I read this sweet picture book to my 6 year old and she has been acting out the story ever since. Not only is it beautifully illustrated by a talented young girl, Angie’s powerful story of life after loss is felt with every page. We all feel a little different at some point in our lives, marked if you will, like Audrey Bunny. This beautiful story reminds our children (and us) that we are loved and accepted exactly like we are.  It’s a special book.

I love reading and I love books, they work for me!

What are you reading lately?


WFMW: Just Beat It

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I live in a noisy house.

And I don’t just mean I come from a long line of yellers.

There’s always a dog barking, kid crying, laughing or arguing hysterically (pick an emotion), washing machine humming and piano banging.

When my kids were younger, it was pure chaos and when my parents would visit they always mentioned the noise level. It was so typically loud, I didn’t even know what they meant, until I had the house to myself. Lo, the silence was deafening.

Besides being born loud, God decided to grant my children musical ability. We have a flute player who plays her flute for fun after practicing for hours, a budding drummer who rap, tap, taps on EVERYTHING and likes to exceed his practice minutes by oh, around 425.

My 6 year old walks around the house strumming on her plastic guitar, playing songs she’s “written in her head.” It’s adorable and all, because you can’t hear it

When Staples asked if our family would like to try a pair of Beats by Dr. Dre, I said yes.

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I was mostly thinking now that my kids are back in school and the band practice is GAME ON, it would be a great way for them to listen to their music in their EAR HOLES and not all over the house.

My kids like to do homework at the dining room table, but often disturb each other. Now they are taking turns wearing the headphones and it’s really helped!

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We weren’t very familiar with Beats headphones and now I can understand why they are so popular. The quality is amazing! I like wearing them around the house, too. It’s funny HOW QUIET these brilliant headphones make a noisy home. Thanks, Dr. Dre. I’m impressed.

Unless my hubby is wearing them in bed, nodding his head and I’m talking up a blue streak thinking he’s agreeing with me.

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Disclosure: This post is a sponsored review. I received a lovely pair of Beats by Dr. Dre, but all the opinions and noise are my own.

Beats work for us!