Enjoy the Journey

I like plans. Carefully laid plans that go perfectly, um, planned.

I work hard at organizing my home, the budget, my blog, my life. I’m at Point A, I define Point B and take the best route there.

Lately, nothing has gone as planned. And I know that’s how life is at times.

But this time it’s different.

Africa happened and I changed, my life and plans right along with it.

I don’t even know what Point B is anymore. Our family is on an uncertain journey and I don’t know where it will lead.

This week, we’ve pushed aside our organized life and we’ve opened our hearts and future to the possibility to something we would have thought insane six months ago.

Getting to this point hasn’t been easy. I’ve fretted and worried money into reserve and now I just give it away.  I’ve hoarded and decorated and and now I don’t care. I’ve tried to make sense of this new unexpected journey.

The other night as I soaked in the tub and tried to clear my mind, crowded with thoughts of an uncertain future, I heard these words:

enjoy the journey

Enjoy The Journey

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

Point A and B are destinations, it’s the getting there, the place in-between where we grow and live.

It was exactly what I needed to hear: enjoy the journey….

I am.

How about you? Are you at Point A or B or somewhere in between?

Discovering Your Child’s Heart {Giveaway}

*Updated with Winner* Wow, I’m so glad I’m not alone in this parenting journey! Congrats to Cariann, our winner. I highly recommend the Family Matters parenting resources to everyone else!

My kids are like night and day. NIGHT and DAY. My firstborn daughter is strong. She is confident and she isn’t easily deterred. She likes to be in charge and doesn’t like to be told no. Her baby sister is a lot like her.

My son is in the middle. He is sensitive, a pleaser, a peacemaker. He wants everyone to get along and often gives up his own desires to make his sisters happy.

My kids are different, but by default, I parent them all the same.

And in the words of Dr Phil (who I do not watch on purpose) “How’s that working out for you?”

Um, some days, not so great.

I’m not intentionally parenting them all the same, I just haven’t known a better way and I even when I try to do it differently, I often slip back into it. Until now.

I’m a long-time fan of Grace Based Parenting. A couple of years ago, I shared their books and gave some away on my blog. Family Matters contacted me and asked if I wanted to try out a new tool to discover the heart of your child and parent to their uniqueness. I jumped at the chance. I don’t feel like I’m a bad parent, but I’m always open to becoming a better one.

Family Matters sent me this family tool smartly disguised as a family game: The Kids Flag Page.

The Kids Flag Page is a fun way for moms and dads to interact with their kids and truly discover the heart of each child—who God created them to be. When you follow the simple, step-by-step instructions to complete your child’s Flag Page and read the information in the accompanying book, you will:

  • Discover the unique way God wired each of your children and how to best relate to them.
  • Find the six key things that motivate your child – what they love the MOST about life.
  • Connect with the heart of your child.
  • Learn the do’s and don’ts of how to motivate, encourage, discipline and help each child succeed in life.
  • Learn a comprehensive strategy for raising your kids in the power of God’s grace.
  • Find out how to bring the best out of your strong-willed kids.

We took our kids out separately and “played the game” to discover their “countries.” I was amazed at the results! My hubby and I are reading the accompany book and trying to implement some of the discoveries.

I highly recommend this tool for every family.

Family Matters is giving away The Kid’s Flag Page today to a reader. Retail value $44. Please leave a comment telling me why this would be helpful for your family.

This giveaway ends on Thursday.

The Shirt Every Husband Needs {Giveaway}

*Congrats to The Nabor’s Baby and MamaRa for winning! Don’t forget to take advantage of this great offer:

Union28 is offering a discount off your order using this code: U28WATF10

It’s valid from June 1st – June 20th and is good for 10% off any Union28 order.

Yesterday, I told y’all about the kind of man I married.

He’s a good man.

But I’ll be honest with you, when my husband told me what he wanted to do for his homeless friend, these words might have come out of my mouth: “Yes, go ahead and buy him colostomy bags, but DON’T GET YOURSELF KILLED. Because dinner is at 6.”

Every man needs a bossy caring wife. A woman who loves him deeply and dresses him well. Which is exactly why I’m thrilled he’s getting this shirt for Father’s Day from me:

[insert proud smile here]

The good people over at Union28 are sending me this shirt for my hubby for Father’s Day. I think he’s going to love it. I know I do. But let’s not talk about me.

Over the past year, I’ve developed a friendship with the owner(s) of Union28 and I love that they support strong marriages. They are the smart people who created the My Husband Rocks shirt that I wear every other week. I wear it even when he doesn’t. Rock.

I love the way that shirt makes him feel. I love that it makes husbands wish their wives would wear a shirt like it. I love that in a small, but tangible way, it builds my marriage.

Union28 is giving away TWO $25 gift certificates today. This giveaway ends on Friday.

PLUS, Union28 is offering a discount off your order using this code: U28WATF10

It’s valid from June 1st – June 20th and is good for 10% off any Union28 order.

Please leave a comment to be entered and tell me which shirt you like AND tell me something you love about your spouse.

The Kind of Man I Married

The third week of every month, he travels down the congested road in his salesman shoes. Every third week, he passes homeless men. They are dirty, some with signs, others aimless, but all forming a derelict community.

One day about a year ago, my husband stopped. He had extra food from an event in his company car and fed the hungry. Some months he passes out chicken biscuits, other months, tacos. He always stops to listen to their stories. He isn’t sent by some church or fulfilling some ministry, there aren’t accolades or attention for his unseen acts.  He saw a need.

Late last week, the third week of the month, he called me. One of the homeless men he’d been helping had a medical need and was in pathetic shape. Please read it in his words…..

He says he’s just doing what feels right to him. But to me, he’s amazing.

Because that’s the kind of man I married.

Links I Love:

  • I Dance Revolution-I think this is an adorable idea to learn something new and get into shape. Too bad, I can’t. Dance.
  • I thought these two posts about blogging about blogging were interesting from Stephanie and Amanda.

Please note:Next week’s WFMW (Wed. June 2nd) will be the annual themed summer edition: “Mom, I’m Bored!” Share your best tip for keeping kids occupied in the summer

We are THAT family Carnival & Blogoversary

I wanted to share a doozy of a story with you that would leave NO DOUBT that we are in fact THAT family…you know the ones. But, my life has been strangely normal lately. 

Because surely my toddler discovering she could actually PUT things in the two little nose holes, also called nostrils, this week doesn’t really qualify me.  It turns out that the blue noise putty hidden in my son’s room has many uses, including but not limited to, shoving them into your brain, followed by tiny bits of toilet paper.
Her snot is still blue.
And while I’m retrieving paper from my daughter’s nose with tweezers, it’s probably completely normal for my out-of-town hubby to call from the airport to let me know he found a lost sippy cup in his travel bag. He discovered it because the sour milk EXPLODED from the pressure of air travel, causing many to question the foul odor. Yep, just an ordinary day.
Every week I receive emails from other moms staying “We are THAT family too.” I’ve laughed and taken comfort (at your expense, of course) reading of your embarrassing and real life moments. I think there’s a little bit of THAT family in all of us.  It seemed fitting to provide a central gathering place to share our moments. And since I’m celebrating my 2 year blogoversary this week, I giving away TEN prizes to TEN carnival linkers!
Most days, I feel good about who we are and where we’re heading as a family. But I’ll be the first to admit, sometimes when my toddler lets out her ear-piercing scream or we end up in the emergency room more than once in a weekend, I want a disguise!

There. That’s better. Hmm…..I wonder who that woman is?
So my neighbor, friend and baker-extradonaire, Bake at 350 is providing a Grand Prize for TWO lucky participants with a dozen (each) mustache-shaped cookies!! 
Here we are incognito:
And, since it’s my party and I can do what I want, I’m not stopping there!
One lucky winner will win a custom necklace from The Vintage Pearl: ($40 value):
One lucky winner will win a gorgeous Life pitcher for your sweet tea (my sweet tea taste even better is this delicious piece of art from Dayspring: ($25 value):
One lucky winner will win a $100 Blogger blog design (The Works) by my friend Jo-Lynne owner of DCRDesign!!
One lucky winner will win a $25 gift certificate to Back 40 Life, an adorable vinyl lettering store.
Scalloped Initial Wall Vinyl Decal
Three lucky winners will win customized holiday cards (jpeg form, you can print them at places like Sam’s, Costco, WalMart, etc) from the lovely gal at Butterfly Sparks! ($15 value, each)
Select card :: Purchase below :: Email photos & wording :: Voila!
And one lucky winner will have their choice of a set (5) binky leashes of 2 sets of mitten clips from Mommie of 4 Munchkins
Lot of Five (5) Pacifier Clips Binky Holders NUK MAM Soothie Gumdrop Avent and More

Whew! Happy 2nd blogging day to me! (MckLinky will close at midnight Thursday night and all winners will be announced on Friday! Make sure you check back in!)

It’s your turn. I can’t wait to read your stories (if you’ve written a post in the past, link it up)!
P.S. The 30,000th comment is getting closer and closer!!!