UPDATE: Congratulations, Lauren Plummer (comment 73), you have been selected as the winner!
I love my husband. Always.
But every once in awhile, there are *moments* when I don’t like him.
Yikes. Can I be that honest?
I’ve always said the line between crazy wild love and a crazy wild anger are close.
Here’s the deal: you are probably a robot if you get along with everyone living in your home 100% of the time. It’s just not possible to agree on everything, every day of the year.
But it’s how you get along that’s key.
I’ll give you a for instance: my youngest was playing with my phone a few months ago and accidentally (or either she’s got a wicked sense of humor and she’s just way more techy than me) changed my husband’s ringtone to the “Alien” ring, which sounds a lot like, um, aliens are invading.
The next time I was searching for my phone in my own house (a weekly occurrence) I asked my hubby to call it. When he heard his Alien ringtone, he was slightly offended. I quickly explained and we laughed about it, but I didn’t change my ringtone. What can I say? I’m a simple girl and it had a ring to it (drumbeat).
He casually asked me to change it. I told him no, and I might have said, “Baby, your out of this world.”
(I’m on a roll).
So, a couple of days later, he changed my ringtone to a song he thought was romantic. And I guess it was a little, except HE CHANGED MY RINGTONE. This irritated me. Why? Who knows. But I changed it back.
And we continued this ridiculous back and forth for awhile.
The point? I have no idea.
Oh yes, the point is we could have made this a huge battle. I believe when marriages end for “irreconciable differences” it’s often probably about ringtones. After 17 years of marriage, we are still learning to pick our battles and not make everything a war.
The bottom line: we are in this for the long haul and getting along takes two. It really all goes back to forgiveness for the little stuff and the big. And usually when I’m irritated or angry at my husband, it’s an issue with me. If I step back from the situation and look at the big picture, I know my husband loves me deeply and the little battles shouldn’t become wars.
P.S. His ringtone is now a motorcycle revving up. He will be so proud.
One little way I’ve tried to get along with my hubby in the every day stuff is by thanking him for the small things he does. I married a great guy and I tend to take him for granted. So, when he fills up my van with gas or brings me a sweet tea, I’m trying to show him my gratitude more.
I saw this on Pinterest and created my own variety. It’s next to our bed. It’s fun to wake up and see a little note to each other occasionally.
You can make one too!
You just need :
- pretty frame
- a piece of scrapbook paper
- a dry erase pen (write on top of the glass and it just wipes right off!)
- velcro (optional) I attached velcro to my pen and to the back of the frame to keep up with the marker.
I created one for a lucky reader today. Just leave a tip for how you get along and I’ll draw a random comment and send you a romantic framed message board and pen.