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This Sums Up My Monday:

How was yours?
Kristen
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WARNING: Here We Come

The other day I needed to go by the bank and deposit a check.Harmless errand with toddler in tow, right?

Hehe (insert fake laugh here).

When I pulled into the parking lot, 420 other people had the same idea. 
So, I decided to outsmart everyone and do my banking at the ATM machine. I pulled up and reached for the deposit envelopes. There weren’t any.

In my frustration, I pulled away slowly, leaving my ATM card in the machine. 
I think a normal person at this point would have stopped their car, gotten out and retrieved said card. At least that’s what my hubby said a normal person would do.

But I backed up into the narrow ATM aisle since no one was in line behind me.
Now, I won’t go into my backing issues. But lets just say I am not a good backer-upper.

On hearing a crunching noise (and I’m pretty sure laughter), I didn’t look back. I found a place to park and wasted the next 30 minutes begging for a new card.

And that’s when I made a monumental decision.

You know, considering our reputation as THAT family. I’ve been feeling sorry for our local Emergency Room, eating establishments (add bank to the list) and the overall general population. 
I’ve decided to let people know we’re coming…It only seems fair. 
I just consider it a warning. And this is what I’ll be wearing when I go pick up my replacement ATM card this week:





I know many of you are related to me. We’re like family. And that’s why I’m sharing. You can warn people too. But my shirt is occupied. You’ll have to get your own.


And if you are bold enough to wear one, all profits go to
The Persecuted Church.

Once I got home, I noticed the fender of my car. 


Oops.

Do y’all think the glue gun can handle this?


Kristen
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THAT Family Tree Society-Issue 11

Picture of the Week:


The Week in Review: Our sweet Russian friends showed up at our door with this cake on my hubby’s birthday. Nothing says Happy Birthday like an amazing homemade cake made from scratch from the resources of Uzbekistan refugees. I wanted to shove my brownies back into my dirty oven and hide them in shame.  

But why waste good brownies?

It’s that time again- high society time!  The newest branch of this big sprawling family tree is the Tonggu Momma. She has a lovely blog and keep reading for some very funny posts that definitely make her a part of this society!

1)Tell us a little about your blog

 Hey y’all!  I’m Tonggu Momma at Our Little Tongginator.  I began blogging because I can’t seem to write in a journal and I wanted to know what our family was doing the day our next daughter is born.  I know, I know… most of y’all are thinking, “ummm… how could you NOT know that???”  Well, we adopted our little Tongginator from China and currently wait for a China adoption referral for her mei mei (little sister).  Since most children adopted from China are between the ages of eight months and two years, I needed a way to document our lives.  And the journal — well, it wasn’t working, y’all.

2) How long have you been blogging?

I began blogging in January 2008, but Bloggy Land sucked me into the vortex quite rapidly.

3) How would you define THAT family?


THAT family seems to stand out in the crowd, for whatever reason.  We definitely do that!  With two Caucasian parents (one of whom is a total shlumpadinka) and one Chinese-American daughter (who many call spicy or a firecracker or a fru-fru drama gal), we can’t seem to blend into the background, no matter how hard I try.

4) When did you discover you were a part of THAT family?


Well, it could be during the Airplane Wedgie Incident… the Tongginator Booty Call moment definitely placed a spotlight on us… the time I got up close and personal with Elmo felt somewhat embarrassing… I still vividly remember the Chic-Fil-A temper tantrum… but I even feel we are THAT family as we simply go about our daily lives around town.

5) Where can we find your blog?


Kristen
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DIYP#18-My Frugal Decor Tips

I love decorating my home. 
When I’m not on home decor probation, that is.
Probation entails periods of time where I need to lay low.
My hubby calls it staying on a budget.
Whatever.
Over the years, I’ve drawn from my frugal past and discovered that the joy for me is in the hunt. So when I hear the word budget, I actually hear the word challenge.
Here are some of my tips:
  • Paint covers a multitude of sins. But even paint can be costly.  I shop the paint returns at Lowe’s, Home Depot and WalMart.  These are tints that weren’t a perfect match and you can buy them really cheap. Perfect for bathrooms, laundry rooms and small bedrooms. I like to make a statement with paint, while not making a statement. In other words, choose a bold neutral (in the taupe family, maybe) rather than a dark maroon or navy blue.
  • Shop the scratch and dent section.  When we were shopping for our bedroom furniture, featured in yesterday’s post, we looked everywhere!  Even after the initial sticker shock wore off, I was determined to find a deal. My hubby dragged me to Basset Furniture. I was reluctant because I knew it would be expensive, until I found the clearance room.  We bought it for 2/3 the price because there was a scratch and a missing knob (which I found in a drawer later!)
  • Don’t be afraid to shop flea markets, thrift shops and even garage sales. Some of my best treasures are from other’s hand-me downs.
  • Furniture doesn’t have to match (and I actually prefer that it doesn’t!) I like pairing a metal table next to a wooden bed or a wooden side table next to a metal bed.  Mix it up a little. The scratch and dent section only had one night stand. I found this little white side table at TJ Maxx for $34!
  • Don’t buy department store bedding.  It’s way overpriced and you can spend hundreds of dollars.  Instead, shop discount stores like Ross, TJ Maxx and Marshalls.  These stores offer high end items for very reasonable prices. I got my teal quilt and shams for $40!
  • Add bedding accessories as you go. Look at Target and even WalMart for coordinating fabric throw pillows. I like matching the same colors, but using different patterns.
  • Shop Ebay! I discovered ‘local auctions’ years ago. You can narrow your search to the amount of miles you’re willing to travel and avoid pricey shipping charges.  A few years ago, I wanted a chair for our living room. Money was very tight, but so was seating.  I had $50 bucks.  I found this gorgeous leopard-print chair on Ebay and won the bid for the local auction for $40!  My hubby picked it up about 15 minutes from our house and it’s still one of my favorite pieces.
  • Try something new. If you see an old door, make it a headboard. If you run across an old dresser, clean it up, remove the drawers and turn it into a buffet. Be creative.
  • Before you get rid of something you’re tired of, try painting it.  Lately, I’ve fallen back in love with many of my tired pieces.  
Before:
After:
  • When you see fabric YOU LOVE on clearance or being sold in remnants, buy it!  Even if you don’t know what to do with it. Little coordinating scraps of beautiful fabrics make great pillows, coasters, place mats, bulletin boards, and so much more. 
  • Decorate with plates. They are cheap and make a statement!
  • Don’t be afraid to copy something you’ve seen.  I can’t tell you how many things in my home came from ideas I’ve seen somewhere else. I saw window wreaths in a Pottery Barn magazine.  And the price tag was ridiculous.  So, I bought large candle rings in the holiday department of Garden Ridge, hung them on $1 ribbon and leave them up all the time.  Just because I can.
  • About 85% of the stuff in my home is off the clearance/discounted aisle. My favorite place to shop is Target.  I love those little red stickers, especially after holidays.  I’ve bought things for 90% off, put it away and used it the following season.  (I also buy toys this way for birthday presents. Shhh!  don’t tell).
When we evacuated from Hurricane Ike, we stopped at a Dallas Target for a few necessities. I couldn’t pass this up: A plastic silhouette Cuckoo clock!
And yes, it bore the mark of the little red tag!  I got this clock for $11!  My hubby did raise his eyebrows when I used the word necessity. But once we got home and discovered that our beloved Target was badly damaged and will be closed for two months, he understood my sorrow.
Can we have a moment of silence for all the deals I’ll miss?
Thank you.
So, you can stay on a budget, find frugal finds and have a lovely home.
That is all.
Kristen
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Blogfluence

The blog world is an enormous place.

And one of my readers, Mom Most Traveled, ask me to use my blogfluence (a mixture of my blog and influence) to share this touching story about a woman looking for her family. 
You can read it here.
I couldn’t pass up the chance to play even a small role in helping this woman find a piece of home.
Kristen
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A Tale of 2 Kitties: The First Week Together

Alice the Cat has some feelings related to our new Hurricane evacuee, Ike. She would like to share them with you:

Kristen
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A Good Place to Dream

I have always dreamed of a beautiful bedroom.  And my dreams-they are not lofty. I didn’t even dream of the finest furnishings or the most gorgeous decor, because who am I kidding?  I have three accident-prone kids, two cats who don’t like each other, and a messy hubby living with me.  
I just wanted a bedroom that spoke to me and felt like me.  And one that didn’t have padded walls and straight-jackets on hand.  I’m just saying.
I love old things.  But I didn’t want an old bed because I knew it would likely be another decade before I had money and my hubby’s consent on such a project.  
So, we shopped the scratch and dent section at a nearby furniture store and smiled pleasantly at the eye-rolling sales people when we bought mismatched bedroom
 furniture.
We painted the walls chocolate brown and I found that quilt for $40! (I always be king for my queen bed, so it covers more. Plus one of the people who sleeps in that bed is a cover-hog. Ahem).
Above my bed:
Our slightly scratched furniture didn’t include a dresser mirror. So, I saved the one from our old worn-out furniture (which I sold in the newspaper for $300!). I’m mixing up the colors of the wood here. But I love it!

My favorite part of the room, is the bench at the foot of the bed.  I drug my hubby through a flea market for two days until I found it.  Because I’m a thrifty bully.
I squealed when I stumbled upon that rug.  It’s the reverse print of my quilt.  I didn’t embarrass myself though because the employees at TJ Maxx know me.  (Although that embarrasses my hubby!)
Old stuff from my in-law’s farm and photos of my kids complete the top of the armoire.  
The antique (replica) laundry basket holds the pillows I throw off my bed at night.
I found this curio cabinet at a garage sale!
And this old door?  Yes, it speaks to me.
So, does the $40 leopard print chair I bought off Ebay!

Check out Kelly’s for some inspiring master bedrooms!

Kristen
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Sincerely ‘Fro Me to You-A Velveteen Pregnancy

Welcome to Sincerely ‘Fro Me To You! I’m so glad you’re here.  It wouldn’t be as fun without you. And I mean that in all sincerity.  My week is a lot funnier when you play along…not that I laugh at you or anything.

After a couple of years of marriage, I got the itch.
You know the one.  
I wanted a baby.
We scratched that itch for about a year with no luck.  We started infertility treatments and continued down that painful road for another two years.  {Sidenote: A special thank you to my hubby for putting up with my multiple personalities during this time.  One medication in particular, caused out-of-body experiences in which I laughed at things that weren’t funny.  In public.  Fun times, I tell you! }
We were on staff at a church during that time and were bombarded with advice on conceiving, including but not limited to my very favorite: “Have you tried a coffee enema yet?”
Um, no.
Once we exhausted our insurance, we started down the road to adoption.  We proved we would be suitable parents with our HIV tests and Home study.  And then we waited.  And waited.  And waited, some more.
That’s when I got pregnant.
And please do not say it was because I finally relaxed! 
With every pregnancy symptom I experienced, my hubby would cheerfully say, “Aren’t you excited?”
Um, yeah, let me wipe the vomit off my chin.
Hip, Hip Hooray.
I had a great pregnancy and gained more than 50 pounds, but less than 100.  As I neared my due date, I had one outfit that fit nicely.  One.  It was green and velveteen.

I went 9 days past my December 31st due date.
I burned that horrid velveteen outfit.
And I’m pretty sure right before my hubby snapped this picture he said something like, “Aren’t you glad you’re getting huge?  That means a healthier baby!”
Hip, Hip Hooray.

Kristen
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SECRET Red Plate GIVEAWAY (for newsletter readers!)

*Updated with Winner* Congrats to Jerralea! You won!

I have a red plate-given to me by a family member years ago. I LOVE IT. I love how it makes my family members feel special when I serve them dinner on their birthday or if they need a little boost of encouragement.

Christian speaker, Sue Heimer, is giving one of these special plates (value $32.75) to one of my newsletter readers! Yay! I encourage all of you to start this special tradition in your family.

You can order a plate today and even get free priority shipping if you order two!

Kristen
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Grace-Based Parenting Tip #3 & Giveaway!

*UPDATED* Congratulations to Ami!  She won the book.  Come back next week for another Grace-Based Giveaway!
I want the best for my kids.
I want them to have a great childhood, a good education, Godly character traits and a bright future.
I want them to pluck the black hairs from my chin when I’m decrepit be successful in life. 
Through the Grace-Based parenting resources, I’ve learned that aiming my children at a future focused on success isn’t the same at aiming them at true greatness.
Doesn’t the phrase true greatness just make something deep within you stand up and say, “YES! That’s it! That’s what I want for my kids!”
The world defines success by these measurements:  wealth, beauty, power and fame.
Okay.  Suddenly, I’m not feeling so successful. 
In Dr. Kimmel’s book, Raising Kids for True Greatness, he defines true greatness as “a passionate love for Jesus Christ that shows itself in an unquenchable love and concern for others.” Directing them towards true greatness helps to focus them upward and outward, rather than inward.
Aiming children at success complicates their lives and contributes to self-absorption. 
How many self absorbed grown up children (a.k.a adults) do we know?
Dr. Kimmel teaches that true greatness is easier to achieve by building four qualities in a child’s heart:
  • A Humble Heart-a reverence for God and respect for others.
This is the last thing our culture is teaching our children. We can’t leave this up to the school system or even the church.  It’s our responsibility as parents to teach our kids how to respect others and revere God.  
What does a humble heart look like?  We are working on developing this in our home: a mutual respect for each other’s ideas and thoughts (as in the oldest child dismissing everything the younger siblings say). I think our kids take cues from us..they are always watching.
  • A Grateful Heart-An appreciation for what they have been given and Who has given it.
I think complaining and grumbling is the direct result of an ungrateful heart.  We all know how it feels for our children to act unthankful!
A friend of mine shared this idea with me: create a ‘blessing box’ and jot down a small note EVERY time a blessing comes your way, from little things like finding a $1 on the sidewalk to big stuff like Dad finding a new job. I think this will teach my kids just how many blessings we have. During Thanksgiving, open the box and read the blessings. I’ll show you our box after we finish making it!
  • A Generous Heart-A great delight in sharing with others what God has entrusted in you.
Perhaps this is the one quality that we have really hammered home. We have had so many opportunities to give lately (Russian friends from The Persecuted Church) that I have planned a special day on my blog to encourage others to give:  One Day to Give.  God has given us so much and we are learning that not only is it fun to give to others, it feels awesome!  
We wanted to take it a step further and teach our children on their level.  We took 3 plastic boxes and had them decorate them with stickers: Spending, Giving, Saving. Every dollar that comes their way, they take a percentage and place it in each box. It has really taught them the value of money and they are having fun watching their pennies grow!

  • A Servant Heart-A willingness to take action in order to help someone else.
On Labor Day, I was very proud of my kids and hubby. They took this principal to heart and spent several hours collecting trash at the pond near our house.  No one noticed or said thank you, but I knew they really ‘got it’ because they weren’t looking for praise.
But I also think this is the weakest area in our home. We are all selfish by nature and it’s easy to slip into the habit of taking care of ourselves first. I think it’s easier for them to serve a stranger than their siblings. So, we’re working on it!
When my last child leaves home, I want to be able to hold my hubby’s hand and look into the mirror and know that we’ve raised truly great kids.
And then it won’t matter if the world calls them a success.
Because they will be.
If you would like this amazing book, Raising Kids for True Greatness, leave me a comment by Thursday noon (CST). Family Matters has been kind enough to donate one!
For more great tips, visit Works for Me Wednesday!
Kristen
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You Would Have Done It Too

On Saturday, I received a desperate email from the Animal Shelter where we adopted Alice the Cat. [We love Alice, but we needed her like we needed a hole in our head!]

It stated that hundreds of animals were turned in or picked up before and after Hurricane Ike. The facility was overcrowded, understaffed and electricity had just been restored. It was struggling to keep up, just like so many places in our city.
Many animals were going to be euthanized
Immediately.
Meet our new family member (because one hole in our head wasn’t enough):
His name is Ike.
Kristen
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One Day To Give


Do you ever feel like your supposed to do something?

I don’t mean catch up on laundry or cook dinner. (Although that does fit my daily job requirement).

I’m talking about a tug, a quiet voice, a gentle urging to act, to do, to give.

When I was very pregnant with my first child, I went grocery shopping for the last time. My basket was overflowing with everything I thought I might need, you know, in case I died during childbirth or at least was paralyzed from my planned epidural. You could say I was a bit paranoid.

We lived on a Youth Pastor’s salary and seriously stretched every dollar. I’ll never forget that day at the store. I was huge and hungry. I took a pint of chocolate milk from the refrigerated section and drank the entire thing right there in the store.

I wasn’t even embarrassed that I dribbled the milk down my yellow top.

I was all about my dairy needs.

As I pushed my giant cart to the register, the cashier looked at me and said, “Someone offered to buy your entire basket of groceries.”

Excuse me? She pointed to a lady I didn’t know very well, but had seen at our church. She looked at me and said, “I’m supposed to do this.”

Her kind and generous act changed our entire month financially because that basket of groceries cost more than $200.

It also changed my attitude and reminded me that God saw every need.

I was thinking about this when I was reading Bring the Rain. I read about Angie selling her Coach purse on ebay and giving the money to charity. Her unselfishness and love for others touched me.

And so I asked myself, what could I give that means something to me?

Something personal. Something I value, given to someone else.

"color:black;">I’ve had a check sitting on my desk for a couple of weeks, one of my first from blog ads. I hadn’t spent it yet, because I was waiting on the perfect gift to buy. For me. I share everything with my hubby and with the needs of my three kids, so I don’t have undesignated sums of money laying around. Exactly.

So, this money was mine. To do as I pleased and I was going to buy something grand.

During the bloggy giveaway carnival, I was inundated with comments for my giveaway (a Tinkerbell Digital Player) as most blogs were. It was so fun! My laptop pinged like a slot machine with each email that came in.

But there was one comment that made me cry. I mean, call me hormonal, but it really touched me.


Oh. My. We spend hours and hours and hours driving to doctors and  

hospitals for our littlest brother.


My nine year old is bored out of her gourd through out all of this.  

But because she loves her little brother, she never complains.


The TINK would be such a welcome gift!


Thank you for the opportunity!


Okay, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to totally rig the contest. The thought crossed my mind several times, especi
ally after I went to their family blog,
Praying for Parker

And so, I knew what I was supposed to do with that check. I shared the story with my kids and they were very excited about surprising this little girl with something special. So, I emailed her.  

Here’s her response:

I am just now getting to my email.  I read this and almost fell off of my chair!  lol!  My daughter, Kensley, would be absolutely delighted!


It is hard when you are the child just next to the one with special needs.  You go from being the baby…..to having to grow up so, so quickly.  You are asked to try and understand things that really are way beyond your reach of understanding.  


You sacrifice.  A lot.  


But her heart is so good.  I would love for her to have a Tink so that she knows her selflessness hasn’t gone unnoticed nor unappreciated.

I was supposed to do that. I would have regretted it if I hadn’t.

I’m not telling you this to receive praise, actually, please, do not praise me.

One Day to Give was born out of a desire to touch someone. It doesn’t have to be monetary. You can give your time, a service, a meal or something you own.

It’s not about the what.

It’s about the why. You might change someone’s day, even their life.

And giving feels so good.

Our family is taking the challenge and I’ll be sharing what we’re giving on Oct. 17. 

You have 25 days from now to do something for someone. 

Will you accept the challenge?

Come back here and link up your post. (You can link up an older post as long as it is appropriate to giving). And this isn’t just for bloggers, readers can participate too.  You can share your story in the comments.

Your One Day to Give.




Kristen
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A Love Letter to My Husband

My Dear Husband,

When I was a little girl, I played make believe.  
I pretended to cook and clean and to be a Momma to my baby dolls. (I did not role play walking around WalMart with a screaming toddler, because there are some things that you must experience to truly appreciate).
But in my naive mind, I imagined a man, a husband.  He was brave and strong and very handsome.  And he loved me.
It was a dream.
And some might call this a silly fairy tale or the immature longings of a girl who loved romance.
But I call it my life.
Because you are the man of my dreams.
You are the first to hold me when I am afraid.
You are my encourager when I doubt myself.
You are the one who made me a Mother.
You are also the one who still leaves his clothes on the floor.  (Just keeping it real).
I am not a little girl anymore. I am a woman and you are a man.   
But I can’t help but think of the things I didn’t dream about….
I didn’t dream that I would hear my husband praying over me as I dozed off to sleep.
I didn’t dream that my husband would buy journals for each of his children and write letters to them. Because he longed to leave them a legacy.
I didn’t dream that my husband would face his own personal battle and show me what a victor looks like.
I didn’t dream that my man would be a Chick-Fil-A fairy, delivering sweet tea in my moments of need.
Today you turn 38 years old.  And more than anything, I want you to know that I love you more than I ever dreamed.  
You are a man among men. You stand out as you lead our family. You are my heart, my life, my best friend, my soul mate.
And the best back scratcher this side of the Mississippi.
You are unique and beautiful.  
And you are mine.
Happy Birthday, husband. I cried when you told me you wanted Russian language lessons for your birthday. 
That request alone, makes you a hero in my world. I am so proud of you.
Thank you for making my dreams come true.
P.S. Do you like my new shirt?
Oh, and I got you one, of course!
(t-shirts are from from me tees)
Food for the Soul:
“May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.”- 2 Corinthians 13:14
Kristen
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THAT Family Tree Society-Issue 10


Pictures of the Week from the Farm:


Homemade dung (thankfully, made from mud).


An evacuated kitty.

Flies who never had a chance, really. (My kids are adding fly paper to their Christmas list!)

The Week in Review: We spent the first part of the week surviving and fleeing Hurricane Ike. The rest of the week was spent on my in-laws farm in Oklahoma. Have I mentioned that I love the farm?

And now, I’d love to introduce you to Mom Most Traveled. She submitted this post . And I could completely relate to her experience! Go give her some love, m’kay?

1. Tell us a little about your blog (name/reason why you blog):


My blog is Mom Most Traveled. I started it because I enjoyed the friendships I formed with other bloggers in my old blog (I need to say blog one more time…blog. Okay; no more blog talk). It was also supposed to be away for extended family to keep up with us as we travel and/or live on the other side of the world. Somehow it turned into a review blog as well.

2. How long have you blogging?

I started what I called an “internet diary” in 2000. I didn’t really know the term “blog”.

3. How would you define THAT family? 

THAT family is the one that gets all of the stares and the under-the-breath comments. “Here comes that JONES boy again…”

4. When did you discover you were a part of THAT family?

"Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 16px; ">I wish I could blame my children but I realized it first when as a young married couple my husband and I entered a talent show at an ESL teacher’s conference in Thailand. We wrote what we thought was a funny song about using a squat toilet. We of course expected the talent show to be light-hearted, but to my horror the act before us was a mother-daughter team doing sign language to the song Love in Any Language. We did go on to perform our act but those in attendance were obviously disturbed. One girl rewound her video camera to record over our skit. And the next year before the talent show they made a general announcement about not performing distasteful skits (and they actually said this), “like a song about a squatty potty or something.”Later when my first child was born I sort of got “bad mom vibes” from the other mothers at playgroup because I let my son eat paper. They would say, “Oh! He has PAPER IN HIS MOUTH!” and I would be all, “What!?! OH NO!” even though secretly I didn’t care. I had to put on my “good mom face” in public.

5. Where can we find your blog?

Kristen
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DIYP#17-A View of The World

Isn’t this a gorgeous room?  I saw this in a Pottery Barn magazine more than 5 years ago!  
My favorite part of this room is the giant world wall map.
Of course, it has a big price tag on it.
But, this frugal Momma searched the internet and found something very similar.  I think ours turned out just as good!  And it was a lot cheaper. My son’s room:
Several of you saw the map in the background of a post last week and asked me how we did it.
I ordered the map off ebay a couple of years ago.  Look, there’s one listed on there right now! But there’s also several other internet sources (google world map mural) and you can get one for less than $100.
My hubby and I cleaned the wall and knocked off some of the texture for a smooth surface.  The map applies much like wallpaper.  The trickiest part is matching up the large strips accurately, so let’s say Texas, doesn’t end up in the Middle East.
Here’s a great link from This Old House on applying wallpaper.
The map was actually much bigger than the wall, so we chose to ‘build’ our map with North America as the focal point.
My son’s room started off in airplanes about 4 years ago, but I recently redid it in pirates. A map theme is really versatile! 
Kristen
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The Good News & The Bad News…

I have some news.

The good news is we are home! I’ve never been so happy to clean out a mildewed fridge. We heard power had been restored and we kissed the farm goodbye and headed home in a hurry. We’ve never made such good time and I’m thinking that’s miraculous considering 2/3 of our children are suffering with a plague called Hand-Foot-Mouth Virus. It is a lovely bug.

Thank you for all your prayers and sweet comments and good thoughts you sent our way.

Now, the bad news.

I have gained five pounds this past week.

And I hold Hurricane Ike completely responsible.

When we weren’t stumbling around in the dark, we were eating. We seriously put away some serious hurricane preparedness.

Even my toddler picked up on the necessity of a full belly. This is how I found her baby doll: 

If you add the new five pounds to the old six baby pounds I never lost, and couple that with the four pounds I’ve gained from sweet tea, you’ve got someone who needs to lose fifteen pounds, just to squeeze back in her clothes (that have gone up a size with every child).

And so, I think I’m getting fat, y’all (I realize that this is based on the eye of the beholder, but let me add that I am not exactly tall). And I’m on a dark and lonely road filled with vanilla Oreo cookies.

I need some accountability. And since you guys have been so helpful in my life, I thought I’d propose this idea:

I will take a picture of myself naked every week so you can watch the progress.

How’s that for some accountability?

Oh, I kid.

I know there would be vasts amounts of internet jealousy.

And puking. Lots of puking.

So, first, I need ideas. How do I lose fifteen pounds? (please do not suggest I give up sweet tea, those comments will be deleted).

I’m thinking about just putting a thumbs up or down sign out there once a week, so y’all can keep me on track.

Or do I need to charge my camera?

Kristen
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Sincerely ‘Fro Me to You-BIG Giveaway Today!

We have a winner!  Thanks everyone for joining in the fun and for being patient with Mr. Linky! Congrats to Twice Blessed Mommy!  You now own an adorable ‘Mom’ swatch watch!

Welcome to this week’s ‘Fro Me! You can read the carnival guidelines here.

This is a special post-hurricane edition and in honor of surviving Ike, today I am hosting a very special giveaway to remind you of the fun-loving 80′s. This great eBay store is offering one of the linkers today an awesome SWATCH WATCH! ($65.00 value). She actually sent me the special ‘mom edition’ Swatch to mail to a winner and it is fabulous! Before you link up, hop over there and look around Sue’s great store and tell me what you like.

Before we left, we tried to clean up our yard a little. 
Our kids even got in on the action. And because I am ruining this show from an iPhone and a farm, I am sharing recent photos. But let’s be honest, I will never get around to scrapbooking them. 

Give your kids a rake, six inches of hurricane debris and it will provide hours of fun!

Kristen
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A Thousand Words: A Hurricane in Pictures

This is down the road. I thought the huge rug of grass uprooted by this giant oak tree was amazing:
This is our street, blocked off by a huge fallen tree:

Giant trees crushed the roof of this car wash at our neighborhood shopping center:

Rising flood waters threatening homes:


In front of our home:

Kristen
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The Shack, A Review of Sorts

Since I have a little extra time, down on the farm, I thought I’d share some thoughts with you about The Shack by William Young.

A sweet friend dropped by The Shack a while ago on my front porch. The note inside said, “You’ve got to read this. Let me know what you think!
I could almost feel the intensity of her words. I’d never heard of the book and right from the start, I knew it wasn’t my normal kind of read. At all. But I love my friend and was intrigued.
And so I did it. I read every page of The Shack in 2.5 days. My hubby read it right after me.
Here’s the synopsis from the back of the book:
Mackenzie Allen Philips’ youngest daughter, Missy, has been abducted during a family vacation and evidence that she may have been brutally murdered is found in an abandoned shack deep in the Oregon wilderness. Four years later in the midst of his Great Sadness, Mack receives a suspicious note, ostensibly from God, inviting him back to that shack for a weekend.
Against his better judgment he arrives at the shack on a wintry afternoon and walks back into his darkest nightmare. What he finds there will change Mack’s world forever and quite possibly your own.
In a world where religion seems to grow increasingly irrelevant The Shack wrestles with the timeless question, “Where is God in a world so filled with unspeakable pain?” The answers Mack gets will astound you and perhaps transform you as much as it did him. You’ll want everyone you know to read this book!
After I closed the last page, I called my friend and we talked about this unusual book. And since we had some questions, we googled it.
Well. That’s when I discovered that The Shack was pretty controversial. Some churches were teaching it in Sunday School while others were calling it blatant heresy.
Now, let me just say, I’m not taking sides. I’m not going to give my theological opinion on this work of fiction. I’m just not that smart.
My two cents: I just picked up the book and read it. I’m glad I did, before I was aware of all the controversy surrounding it. First of all, this is a book of fiction. I think if people are looking at it as a Biblical guide, they will find fault. Secondly, the first 5 chapters are VERY hard to read, especially as a mother. Prepare yourself. It won’t be easy.
I understand the mystery surrounding it, but it made me really think about what I believe about God. And I’m glad I read it.
Here are two different sides that I thought were very thought-provoking:
Against the book.
For the book.
The bottom line for me is while I didn’t agree with every word in The Shack, it did challenge my faith and stir my heart to know God deeper.
And in my book, that’s a good thing.
Kristen
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The Days of Olde

Can I just say that a home-cooked meal never tasted so good?

We made it to Oklahoma and left our devestated hurricane-torn community behind.

On the way there, we talked about the last few days. My son said thoughtfully, “Mom, we were living just like the people in the ‘olden days.’”

I thought about how life centered around the basics: food, water and shelter. The images of us waiting in line behind hundreds of cars for ice were still very fresh. And it will be some time before I forget the smell of our rotting food.


“Yes, honey, that is very similar to the way people lived a long time ago,” I replied.

“Well. The ‘olden days’ must have sucked.”

And even though I wanted to heartily agree, I decided my son needed his mouth washed out.

If I had some sterile water, that is.

Kristen
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On a Wing and a Prayer

My hubby stayed up most of the night thinking about gas.

Sorry. The lack of electictricy has brought out the fifth grade boy in me.

Gasoline, that is.

He crunched numbers and decided we should be able to make it far enough to replenish our tank. We are heading to Oklahoma! And I am very excited about the thought of a hot shower and food that doesn’t involve potted meat.

School has been cancelled until power is restored. My kids are devasted.

So, I hope to offer you some regular updates of our exciting air conditioned world this week and maybe some pictures of our neighborhood.

Please pray that we get to my inlaws farm in Oklahoma safely and please pray that Alice the cat doesn’t go potty again in the car.

I really wish I could tell you I was kidding.

Our little Russian friends fared well and last night we cooked our remaining food with them and shared our supplies.

Oh, and one more thing, I could seriously use a glass of sweet tea soon, so add that to you prayer list.

And thank you for your sweet emails and comments. I cannot tell you how they fortified my soul when I could get a signal to read them in the middle of the night.

They made a difference in my life.

Kristen
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FYI


You know those little packets that come in your shoe boxes?

The ones that say “Silica. Throw Away. Do Not Eat.”
Well.  Not that I know from experience or anything, but if you find an empty, damp one in several pieces on your kitchen floor, you will feel the panic rising.
But according to Poison Control, the little hard pellets are more of a choking hazard than actual poison, per se.
Not that I know or anything.
Kristen
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There is Something to that Hunkering Down Thing

Thank you so much for your prayers! We survived Ike and are so glad to be safe. We are without power, air conditioning and we are boiling water. Cell towers are gridlocked, so I can only update Twitter in the middle of the night with my thumbs and a very tired iPhone.

Our roads are blocked by massive trees and there isn’t gasoline or staples available in our community. We have heard that power could be out for a month, but are hoping they are wrong. We will be leaving if they are right because I am not in the mood to camp that long!

There are hundreds of trees down and about every third one is on someone’s roof or car, my parents being one of them. But our town, an hour from Galveston, received only a glancing blow from hurricane Ike.

Of course, my kids think this is a grand adventure!

And since we are all safe, I think they are right.

It’s about basics now –

And that’s never a bad thing.

Kristen
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DIYP#16- My Love of Chalkboard Paint Has Deepened

You’ve probably picked up on my newly discovered love for chalkboard paint.  I used it in my laundry room makeover and my toddler’s new art table.
I saw this idea in the summer edition of Better Homes & Garden 100 DIY Projects.
And I thought, “Well, well, well, chalkboard paint isn’t just for kids, is it?”
Here’s my new favorite thing:
Take an ornate frame (mine is from Ikea and it’s actually plastic, shhhh, don’t tell):

And rough up the glass on the frame with some course sandpaper (just enough to leave it scratched up a bit).
Take your chalkboard paint and coat the glass after wiping it off. (Or you can buy chalk board spray paint for plastic).

Let it dry and hang it.
Mine is the perfect display for some Bible versus we’re trying to memorize as a family:
If that doesn’t make you feel all warm and tingly, I don’t know what will!
Kristen
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It’s Nearly Time to Hunker-Down

We are in hunkering down mode. 

This is an official and technical Texas hurricane term for hiding your entire family in the laundry room with a mattress over your head.
Because we are prepared like that.
We are in the path of Hurricane Ike (although not in a mandatory evacuation area and were told to stay put, so Galveston residents could get out) and the weatherpeople are predicting some very fierce winds, tornadoes and all matters of scary weather.  They are also saying possible power outages for up to two weeks. 
And, sad to say, I thought of my blog. 
But only after I panicked and stood in line for an hour at the packed grocery store with my toddler. I got lots of chocolate, a new book to read and nail polish. I’m all about survival.  We made it through the long lines by eating halloween candy from an unpaid for bag.
Because we are prepared like that.

I spent yesterday making some homemade ice cubes because the store was out. 
And people think I can’t cook.  Ha!
My hubby worked on tying things down outside.
And my son? He helped.
Yes, that is a vine he is tying to our overturned patio table.
After I explained the reality of Hurricane Ike, this is where I found him:
Perhaps, I should have left out the google search.
So, I have a few posts on auto-schedule, but if you don’t hear from me after Monday, send your prayers and electrical currents this way.  We’re going to need them.
I’ll be twittering until we lose power.  
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Be safe.
Kristen
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And They Say Money Can’t Buy Happiness

My son bought this enormous baseball trophy at a garage sale for $1.00.
It is proudly displayed on his messy dresser.
When I asked him, “Why?  Why do you want to buy this with your allowance?”
He said, “Mom, it’s so much easier than trying to earn one.”
That’s my frugal, corner-cutting boy. It makes a Mom proud, ya know?
Kristen
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Sincerely ‘Fro Me to You-If Darth Vader was Their Father

*UPDATED TO ADD* I forgot to mention that you don’t want to miss next week’s ‘Fro Me To You because I have an AMAZING giveaway from the blessed 80′s.  I’m SO excited about it.  And it’s just for linky participants, so your odds are very good!
Thanks for joining me today!  Some call this a circus, others call it being thrown under a bus, I call it home (a.k.a. Sincerely ‘Fro Me to You.) Read guidelines for joining here.
A year ago, we visited California on a family vacation.  We visited the beautiful beaches and the streets of Rodeo Drive. We also visited Disneyland.
And although I have dozens of ‘Mickey and me’ photos, there is one that I hold dear.  This framed picture graces both of my children’s dressers. Because I don’t want them ever to forget—–how they would look if they had been born to Darth Vader:

While I held our baby, my hubby and older kids stood in a long line to to ride the Star Wars ride.  Santa brought all six movies a couple of years ago and so you could say there are some avid Star Wars fans in our home.

I waited in the gift shop since the ride emptied there (very clever marketing).  I couldn’t help but watch people line up behind the camera with the blue screen in the background to see what they would look like as Star Wars characters.  It was so fun.
So, of course, my kids wanted to give it a shot.
You don’t even want to know how much we paid for those little souvenirs!
But as you can see, it was really priceless. And I think my Princess Lea and Luke Skywalker are better than the originals!

Kristen
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Grace-Based Parenting Tip & Giveaway!

*Update* Congrats to Tara. I will email you!

A key element for raising great kids is establishing an atmosphere of grace in your home.
What is the atmosphere in your home?  Is it cold, harsh, rule-oriented?  Or is it wild, rule-free and chaotic? Grace-based parenting is the balance between grace and truth. 
I’ll just give you a little hint about last night’s atmosphere in our home:  it starts with ‘un- and ends with- ruly’.
A grace-based home creates an atmosphere that allows kids the freedom to be different, vulnerable, candid and to make mistakes (Dr. Tim Kimmel elaborates on each of these points in his book, Grace Based Parenting).
I heard Dr. Kimmel share the following story at Family Camp in describing vulnerability.  It really moved me:

“KIMMEL, TAKE OFF YOUR SHOES, leave on your socks, climb up on the trampoline, and follow my instructions,” the coach instructed the 9th grade boy.

He quickly untied his shoes and climbed onto the trampoline for the demonstration.  As he did, he noticed holes in both of his socks.  It wasn’t a big deal until a classmate yelled, “Check out the holes in Kimmel’s socks! Hey, you want to borrow a pair of mine? I’ve got plenty. Or maybe we should take up a collection after class!”

“Knock it off!” the coach commanded, but the damage had already been done. The guys had a good laugh, and they continued to have a good laugh even after the coach told them to be quiet.

Tim Kimmel couldn’t concentrate the rest of the class.  All he could think about was mending every sock he had as soon as he got home. The teasing had drawn attention to his family’s economic status.  ”We were a family on the lowest rung of the middle class…”

When class was over, the PE teacher dismissed the kids and Tim put his shoes back on.  On his way out, the PE teacher called his name.  ”Tim, I wanted to tell you why I called on you to do that demonstration in class today. It’s because I think you’re the most agile student in my class.”  Then he untied one of his shoes and pulled it off, to reveal two of his toes poking thru a large hole.  ”Us agile guys are tough on socks!”

As Tim walked away, he found a dictionary and looked up the word agile:  ”moves with speed, ease, elegance and liveliness; mentally alert and quick-witted.” 

This changed his life. (He wondered if the coach had acutally cut those holes in his socks to show him it was okay to be vulnerable).

Grace-Based parenting says we need to give our children the freedom to be different.  They need the freedom to be vulnerable and we need to extend grace to them when they are vulnerable. Our children need the freedom to be candid and the liberty to make mistakes.

I love this quote from the book:  

You have been singled out to do a favor for God. He is asking you to be His representative to a small but vital part of the next generation. He needs someone to be His voice, His arms, and His heart. 
He chose you.

We are learning what this looks like in our home.  Allowing our kids to be more candid in sharing their hearts (without being disrespectful) was the first step we made.  I’m also trying not to fix all my kids problems by letting them learn from their mistakes.  (T
his is much harder for me then for them).
Letting my daughter be herself by not controlling her appearance is not easy for me. (I’m thinking her teachers were wondering about her hair choices this morning). But I’m learning that she has unique style and just because it’s different than what I would choose, doesn’t make it wrong. 
And when we see them struggling with school issues or things at home (like the nearly daily after-school meltdowns we’ve been experiencing), we try to remember their need for vulnerability and even attempt to make ourselves vulnerable by sharing our own struggles.
Most of all, we are still learning what a grace-based home looks like!
Today, I’m giving away the audio CD entitled, “Grace Based Parenting.”  If you’d like to have it, please leave a comment. I will choose a winner by 10 pm (CST) Wednesday night.
For other great tips, visit Works for Me Wednesday.
Kristen
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