Archives for November 2008

It left me shaken.

I didn’t plan on blogging about it.  I didn’t know if I could.

But all week, I’ve wondered if my story could save a child’s life.

A child like mine.

My toddler nearly choked to death at a restaurant.

Now, I joked when I wrote a letter to Mr. Heimlich. And Lord knows, we’ve had our fair share of THAT family moments, but what I’m going to tell you is not funny and I cannot make light of it.

I joined my parents for an impromptu lunch with my toddler in tow. It was at my favorite Mexican food place, so I couldn’t exactly turn the offer down.

My parents and I were talking politics and my girl was next to me in a high chair. My Dad noticed she had something in her mouth and said, “What is that?”

I saw the empty candy wrapper on the edge of the table and I remembered seeing her tuck a peppermint into her pocket from the candy bowl at the entrance of the restaurant.

I meant to get it from her.

But I got busy.

Once I saw the candy in her mouth, I held out my hand, but before I could tell her to spit, she swallowed the hard mint.

And she choked.

I patted her back briskly.

The gagging and gasping continued. I picked her up.

I pounded harder and looked to my parents for help.

They jumped up and came around the table.

At this point, my toddler was still pink, but she struggled to breath.

I put my arms around her middle and did The Heimlich Maneuver.

The candy was still lodged and my daughter was losing the battle of her life.

I tried again.

And again.

My Dad grabbed her and we ran towards the bathroom. He picked her up and turned her upside down.

Still nothing.

My Mom stuck her hand down my baby’s throat.  So, did I.

Again, nothing.

At this point, I am praying. Hard. “Jesus, please help my baby.”

She is still panting/breathing and we determined that the candy was lodged in her windpipe and although it wasn’t a total obstruction, if it shifted to cover her complete airway, we would have only seconds…..

Another minute passed and I was at a complete loss. We tried everything.

I will never forget the pleading look in my child’s eyes. She was asking  for help. She clawed at me while she made pathetic noises. I felt so helpless.

I remembered there was a doctor’s office in the same shopping strip and I told my parents that’s where I was headed. I wanted them to call 911 (I still cannot believe the restaurant didn’t offer to do this).

But just before I ran out the door, my Dad gave her one more hard thrust on the back and she vomited on the floor.

I’ve never been so happy to see my child throw up in public!  We took her into the bathroom checked her out and wiped her face.

Her demeanor, breathing, instantly changed and everything was completely normal.  As a matter of fact, she was giddy with bright eyes.

I learned some very important lessons from this ordeal (I talked with my friend Karen a nurse, and replayed my actions):

1. DO NOT let babies or toddlers have hard candy.

2. DO NOT assume someone will help you.

3. DO TRY The Heimlich Maneuver.

4. DO GIVE hard pats on the back.

5. DO CALL 911 immediately.

6. DO NOT wait. Ask if there is a medical person nearby. Make a scene.

7. DO NOT allow your kids to eat in the car. Choking is silent.

8. DO LOVE on your babies. Because life is precious.

Please visit, the following link for step-by-step guidelines for choking children. I’ve memorized it.

Once I got home, I tucked my exhausted baby in her bed and collapsed into a tearful pile.  I twittered the story while my hands were still shaking. I think I just needed good thoughts and prayers sent my way.

9. DON’T THINK it can’t happen to you.