Friday morning, we got a phone call, the kind you never want to receive.
We jumped on a plane, my husband first and the kids and I followed, to see my sister-in-law and my dear friend who was on life support, an unexpected complication to her diabetes.
We prayed, sobbed, and finally, we said goodbye.
Watching someone you love take her last breath on earth is heart wrenching. But knowing it means she is with Jesus is breathtaking.
Coming into this world is sacred, so is leaving it. As a room full of people worshipped God and shared memories, my sister-in-law left this world. The family minister with us said in 45 years of hospital ministry, he had never seen a family in more unity or support for each other.
My brother-in-law and nephews, in-laws, family members are heartbroken. We all just wished for one more conversation with her.
I’m walking unfamiliar ground with my kids who have lost someone close to them for the first time. My sensitive son threw up when he heard, my little one attending her first funeral, and my sweet girl, burying her precious aunt the week of her 13th birthday. My amazing husband, so strong through this has lost his big sister who adored him.
I’ve lost more than a sister-in-law; she was a friend, the only other woman I’ve ever asked to raise my children if something happened to us.
Rhonda, if I could talk to you one more time, I’d try to make you laugh, which would be easy since you lived ready to do so. You had the best laugh. I would thank you for loving my children as much as I did, for loving your brother all these years, and for accepting his crazy, strong-willed wife without question. You were a wonderful wife and a fierce momma who loved her boys. We already miss you so much.
I’m holding my husband and children tighter, my family closer. Can I urge you to make that phone call you’ve been putting off ?Write that letter. Ask for forgiveness. Or accept it. Choose love because life’s too short to do anything else.
As we prepare for her funeral, I’m not great at saying goodbye, so I’m just going to say see you later. Because I will.