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15 Ways to Teach Kids How to Work Hard

April 2, 2014 by Kristen

It was the first day of summer in 1984. He was 14 years old.

His dad woke him up before work and said there’s a load of sand in the driveway and shovel. He told him by the time he got home from work, he wanted the low spots in the backyard filled.

There were similar projects all summer long.

That’s how my husband was raised.

(I was raised scooping dog poop in the hot Texas sun, so don’t feel too sorry for him.)

There was also summer fun for both of us -bike riding and baseball playing,  But there was also a lot of hard work. We didn’t sleep until noon or play video games until the middle of the night while mom fixed lunch everyday and did all the laundry.

We have come along way, huh? Maybe it’s time to backtrack.

Because when I declare it’s yard work day at my house, it’s like the End Times around here. We ignore the groans and moans and wailing and push through. Because hard work is good for kids. Not only does it teach them to be grateful for what you do all day long, it creates a work ethic in them that will carry them into adulthood.

Pile of dirty washing in bathroom

Here are 15 ways to teach kids how to work hard:

  1. Don’t do everything for them: It sounds simple, but kids will let you do everything for them as long as you do everything for them.
  2. Require them to take care of their own space. They won’t clean it up you say? Try the age old “you can’t do or have this (fill in the blank) until you clean up this (fill in the blank)” and I bet they will.
  3. Make them sweat a little. Like literally get their hands dirty picking up the busted trash in the street, washing the car, or the bottom of the trash can. It’s okay. They will survive.
  4. Start early. (And remember it’s never too late to start).
  5. Make work part of your family routine. This is just something we do. We take care of what God has given us.
  6. Let them learn from their mistakes (don’t jump in to fix or redo everything they try to do) Let it go.
  7. Make work fun (chore roulette).
  8. Be an example of hard work-Let them see you working hard.
  9. Serve as a family (perspective is everything). This has been huge for us.
  10. Be an encourager (and not a control freak).
  11. Let your kids be in charge of dinner (from grocery shopping to putting it on the table). Last week my son prepared dinner for the family. I needed his help and he did a great job. He doubted at first, but ended up really proud of himself.
  12. Give them a chance to earn money, so they can learn how to handle it. This has been the single best thing to eliminate the gimme gimmes.
  13. Teach them to save and give a % of their money.
  14. Give them projects that require time management skills (like dirt on the driveway)
  15. Be consistent

I married a hard-working man who is working hard to raise children who aren’t lazy. And I need to tell his parents thank you.

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72 Comments Filed Under: Parenting

Maybe We Should Stop Entertaining Our Kids So Much

March 23, 2014 by Kristen

15 hours. One way. That's how long it took us to drive to New Mexico on Spring Break. Getting there, my children were delightful. On the long drive, they occupied themselves with reading, drawing, watching a couple of movies and asking questions about the change of scenery, and they got along well. Clearly, we were amazing parents. And then we piled in the car a few days later to come home. We arrived in the Land of Enchantment with one set of children and discovered they had morphed ... Read More

57 Comments Filed Under: Parenting

9 Things We Should Get Rid of to Help Our Kids

March 16, 2014 by Kristen

She borrowed something from me. And then she lost it. Accidents happen. But it was the whole "It only cost ten bucks-you can get another one" attitude that I couldn't let happen a moment longer. So, I gave her a job that required hard work and gave her the $10 she earned and then I made her pay me for what she lost. Listen, when I realized I was more than half the problem in this whole entitlement parenting challenge, it was a wake up call. Kids naturally want what they ... Read More

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To the Children of Texas

March 13, 2014 by Kristen

We've had two weather days in our part of Texas this winter. School was canceled. Roads were sanded. Bread aisles were emptied. And before you northerners mock us too badly, it's been the coldest winter for us in 40 years. Plus, there was real live ice. On one of these days, I watched my Texas kiddos scrape bits of dirty ice from the mailbox and cram it into a ball and call it a snow since they had never seen real snow before. Poor Texas children. It was pathetic. And then it ... Read More

6 Comments Filed Under: Family

Dear Moms of Littles, This Might Be The Most Important Thing You Do Right Now

March 10, 2014 by Kristen

She had a two year old wrapped around her leg, holding on for dear life, while she bounced her crying newborn in her arms as we talked. "What's new with Mercy House? Oh and the refugee women in Houston?" I noted the longing in her voice. I started to answer and she whispered wistfully, barely audible over newborn noises, "I'm jealous of your life." I almost laughed off the comment--because my day had consisted of a crammed  "to do" list,  computer issues, a rushed meeting, dragging boxes ... Read More

77 Comments Filed Under: Parenting

WFMW: DIY Prayer Board

March 4, 2014 by Kristen

I love love love inspiring, intentional home decor. And so when I saw this project my sweet friend Justina posted on Facebook, I knew I had to make it. But I also know that I have to do laundry first and I didn't want y'all to have to wait for me to get to it. So, I asked Justina to share this beautiful idea with you. 1. I just took an old unattractive picture out of the frame, painted it with one coat of paint I had on hand. 2. I used thumb tacks & twine to finish ... Read More

31 Comments Filed Under: Home

The Truth About Church No One is Talking About

March 2, 2014 by Kristen

I can remember lying beneath the pew on Sunday nights with my twin sister. I can remember coloring and drawing pictures quietly while the pastor preached. I can remember what happened when we weren't so quiet. I can't remember not going to church. We rarely missed the three weekly services and that didn't count Easter Pageant practices and Friday night youth events. I left those pews for Bible college and left Bible college for church staff positions. I spent the first ... Read More

50 Comments Filed Under: Faith

I Think We May Be Missing Something Very Important

February 23, 2014 by Kristen

It was a hot February day in Texas. We only had a handful of volunteers and hundreds of needy refugees had already formed a line, so everybody had a job. Even our kids. Especially our kids. From across the parking lot, I watched my 14 year old give directions to the handful of kids barely taller than her waist. This small army of children were  in charge of the mound of toiletry and hygiene items we were sharing with refugees in our city. I blinked back tears as they divided the supplies ... Read More

108 Comments Filed Under: Parenting

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